ha . Vegas baby!
seriously, once we started inviting people we couldn't figure out how not to invite people. ( though I had an idea -- I was going to have the wedding at the end of hike -- but Matt wouldn't go for it) So vegas was it
Time for some thrilling heroics.
Jayne ,'The Train Job'
Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
beth b - Jun 02, 2009 8:41:11 am PDT #11732 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
amych - Jun 02, 2009 8:42:42 am PDT #11733 of 30000
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
I think you can probably guess my suggestion. (It involves telling people after you elope, as always.)
Nora Deirdre - Jun 02, 2009 8:43:54 am PDT #11734 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
Yeah, we also explored having a very few loved ones at our wedding, but really, you can't invite some and not others. At least with a full out total elopement, everyone is dissed equally!
I say you guys come out to Vermont and get married at Teppy's brother's brewpub.
... Oh wait, I'm projecting a little there.
Fay - Jun 02, 2009 8:44:38 am PDT #11735 of 30000
"Fuck Western ideologically-motivated gender identification!" Sulu gasped, and came.
Were I ever to get married, then I'm very fond of the notion of being married in Vegas by an Elvis impersonator.
beth b - Jun 02, 2009 8:45:09 am PDT #11736 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
I have a great backyard for weddings ....
smonster - Jun 02, 2009 8:45:32 am PDT #11737 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Kristin, what a bummer. Good luck.
Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Jun 02, 2009 8:45:41 am PDT #11738 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"
Best of luck dealing with family expectations, Kristin. I can relate. We're having an exceptionally small ceremony until we can figure out what we want in terms of something that includes others - whether a party, or a 'blessing', or what - which we might not get round to for a good while yet. Our family situation is complicated, but we're now finally managing to persuade them that they won't be missing out. I agree with the idea of having a short engagement - always a good idea!
Word-order edit.
Nora Deirdre - Jun 02, 2009 8:48:01 am PDT #11739 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
It involves telling people after you elope, as always.
Heh, yep.
We did get officially engaged and then just (very firmly) never discussed when or where the wedding would be, it faded from the limelight. It was only about 7 months between the engagement and the elopement as well. We'd have done it much sooner if I was able to get away from work in May.
We were lucky that we didn't have too much pushiness from family and friends, and we were able to effectively prepare everyone for what was happening without actually communicate the plans. This is not always the case, I know.
WindSparrow - Jun 02, 2009 8:54:47 am PDT #11740 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
I found the mansicle disturbing.
sj, I love that photo of Maia and Zachary.
Sorry to hear that the in-laws are beginning to act like out-laws, Kristin.
JZ - Jun 02, 2009 8:59:05 am PDT #11741 of 30000
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
I must be a complete outlier in having loved our big-ass wedding (especially the part where I started crying and then Hec started crying and then everyone started crying. Runny noses everywhere! That was awesome.).
If you're not me, though (and clearly you are not, else both ND and Hec are in for a big surprise one of these days), then I endorse the elope-right-away, let-them-fuss-over-the-party-later-on plan. If you're very lucky, you could end up being like my brother and brother-in-law, whose big party ended up getting delayed by nearly half a decade, at which point all the families were just happy that anything was happening at all.
Just don't stint on the cake. Cake is key.
Also, I strongly endorse the corset dress option (not least because you'll have to come up to SF at least a couple of times for fittings).