JZ - I loved my big wedding, too. It was awesome and fun and a total blast. And plannig it from 2500 miles away made for very little family input. Woohoo!!
River: You gave up everything you had. Simon: [Chinese] Everything I have is right here.
'Safe'
Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Aims - Jun 02, 2009 9:00:20 am PDT #11742 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Nora Deirdre - Jun 02, 2009 9:05:14 am PDT #11743 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
t I insert my standard disclaimer that while elopement was awesome for me, I know many people who have loved the celebration and I am not bagging on it.
No outliers when it comes to weddings! Do what makes you happy!
beth b - Jun 02, 2009 9:06:18 am PDT #11744 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
big weddings are for some, but it is up to the couple. I get the whole family/ village celebration. But it can be truly crazy making as well. I think adults get to make that decision
Liese S. - Jun 02, 2009 9:09:22 am PDT #11745 of 30000
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
And I'm the inlier! I tried to elope, but ended up with a wedding planned with the speed of gazelles. Crazy, crack-addled gazelles with cake. But then, my dad walked me down the aisle and that's something I'm so glad I had.
And it was wonderful. It would have been wonderful to elope, too, and it probably would have been wonderful if we'd elaborately and carefully planned a wedding for years. It didn't matter, because at the end of the day I get to spend the rest of my life with the person I adore more than any other in the world.
And so will you.
WindSparrow - Jun 02, 2009 9:09:25 am PDT #11746 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Steve Martin's character's daydream of the backyard barbecue wedding is more my speed than how the main event actually played out in Father of the Bride.
Nora Deirdre - Jun 02, 2009 9:13:03 am PDT #11747 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
It didn't matter, because at the end of the day I get to spend the rest of my life with the person I adore more than any other in the world.
Wrod.
Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Jun 02, 2009 9:13:45 am PDT #11748 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"
backyard barbecue wedding
That's basically what my sister did, with a lot of style. My dad had a decent-sized garden in which to put up a marquee, so they fitted a fair few people in. It was definitely done in their own style. Which seems to be the key to getting these things right.
beth b - Jun 02, 2009 9:14:11 am PDT #11749 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
It didn't matter, because at the end of the day I get to spend the rest of my life with the person I adore more than any other in the world.
Can't argue with that
Pix - Jun 02, 2009 9:15:00 am PDT #11750 of 30000
The status is NOT quo.
I don't think big weddings are bad at all! This time, though, we can't afford a big wedding (plus, I did that once already), and the stress that it would cause Drew to worry about his mom and sister (though for very different reasons) would take the enjoyment right out of it. Unfortunately we also can't elope right away because of some lingering financial business stuff Drew has to deal with before we can make it legal. The soonest we could take care of it is probably after New Years.
§ ita § - Jun 02, 2009 9:15:27 am PDT #11751 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Part of me would go for a teensy wedding on some beach somewhere, and then a world tour where people throw the receptions they want for us, or none. But I think my parents would be heartbroken, so maybe immediate family only.
So NOT something I need to worry about.