I found the mansicle disturbing.
sj, I love that photo of Maia and Zachary.
Sorry to hear that the in-laws are beginning to act like out-laws, Kristin.
To commemorate a past event, you kill and eat an animal. It's a ritual sacrifice, with pie.
Anya ,'Sleeper'
Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
WindSparrow - Jun 02, 2009 8:54:47 am PDT #11740 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
JZ - Jun 02, 2009 8:59:05 am PDT #11741 of 30000
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
I must be a complete outlier in having loved our big-ass wedding (especially the part where I started crying and then Hec started crying and then everyone started crying. Runny noses everywhere! That was awesome.).
If you're not me, though (and clearly you are not, else both ND and Hec are in for a big surprise one of these days), then I endorse the elope-right-away, let-them-fuss-over-the-party-later-on plan. If you're very lucky, you could end up being like my brother and brother-in-law, whose big party ended up getting delayed by nearly half a decade, at which point all the families were just happy that anything was happening at all.
Just don't stint on the cake. Cake is key.
Also, I strongly endorse the corset dress option (not least because you'll have to come up to SF at least a couple of times for fittings).
Aims - Jun 02, 2009 9:00:20 am PDT #11742 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
JZ - I loved my big wedding, too. It was awesome and fun and a total blast. And plannig it from 2500 miles away made for very little family input. Woohoo!!
Nora Deirdre - Jun 02, 2009 9:05:14 am PDT #11743 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
t I insert my standard disclaimer that while elopement was awesome for me, I know many people who have loved the celebration and I am not bagging on it.
No outliers when it comes to weddings! Do what makes you happy!
beth b - Jun 02, 2009 9:06:18 am PDT #11744 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
big weddings are for some, but it is up to the couple. I get the whole family/ village celebration. But it can be truly crazy making as well. I think adults get to make that decision
Liese S. - Jun 02, 2009 9:09:22 am PDT #11745 of 30000
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
And I'm the inlier! I tried to elope, but ended up with a wedding planned with the speed of gazelles. Crazy, crack-addled gazelles with cake. But then, my dad walked me down the aisle and that's something I'm so glad I had.
And it was wonderful. It would have been wonderful to elope, too, and it probably would have been wonderful if we'd elaborately and carefully planned a wedding for years. It didn't matter, because at the end of the day I get to spend the rest of my life with the person I adore more than any other in the world.
And so will you.
WindSparrow - Jun 02, 2009 9:09:25 am PDT #11746 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Steve Martin's character's daydream of the backyard barbecue wedding is more my speed than how the main event actually played out in Father of the Bride.
Nora Deirdre - Jun 02, 2009 9:13:03 am PDT #11747 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
It didn't matter, because at the end of the day I get to spend the rest of my life with the person I adore more than any other in the world.
Wrod.
Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Jun 02, 2009 9:13:45 am PDT #11748 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"
backyard barbecue wedding
That's basically what my sister did, with a lot of style. My dad had a decent-sized garden in which to put up a marquee, so they fitted a fair few people in. It was definitely done in their own style. Which seems to be the key to getting these things right.
beth b - Jun 02, 2009 9:14:11 am PDT #11749 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
It didn't matter, because at the end of the day I get to spend the rest of my life with the person I adore more than any other in the world.
Can't argue with that