And so begins pressure from ND's sister to include the family at the ceremony (which we're planning to do very privately for a number of important reasons). The opening ploy involved evoking guilt about how depressed his mom is.
Sorry, Kristin- I know that's gotta be tough. Makes me want to say, "thank you for making me regret my decision to share my happy news with you!"
I guess just be firm, consistent, and stick to the script. Hope it doesn't get under ND's skin too much.
I'm sure you guys expected something like this, but it still sucks to have to deal with it.
My suggestion: short engagement- do the deed the way you want to as soon as is feasible, this cuts down on the length of nagging time before the event!
ha . Vegas baby!
seriously, once we started inviting people we couldn't figure out how not to invite people. ( though I had an idea -- I was going to have the wedding at the end of hike -- but Matt wouldn't go for it) So vegas was it
I think you can probably guess my suggestion. (It involves telling people
after
you elope, as always.)
Yeah, we also explored having a very few loved ones at our wedding, but really, you can't invite some and not others. At least with a full out total elopement, everyone is dissed equally!
I say you guys come out to Vermont and get married at Teppy's brother's brewpub.
... Oh wait, I'm projecting a little there.
Were I ever to get married, then I'm very fond of the notion of being married in Vegas by an Elvis impersonator.
I have a great backyard for weddings ....
Kristin, what a bummer. Good luck.
Best of luck dealing with family expectations, Kristin. I can relate. We're having an exceptionally small ceremony until we can figure out what we want in terms of something that includes others - whether a party, or a 'blessing', or what - which we might not get round to for a good while yet. Our family situation is complicated, but we're now finally managing to persuade them that they won't be missing out. I agree with the idea of having a short engagement - always a good idea!
Word-order edit.
It involves telling people after you elope, as always.
Heh, yep.
We did get officially engaged and then just (very firmly) never discussed when or where the wedding would be, it faded from the limelight. It was only about 7 months between the engagement and the elopement as well. We'd have done it much sooner if I was able to get away from work in May.
We were lucky that we didn't have too much pushiness from family and friends, and we were able to effectively prepare everyone for what was happening without actually communicate the plans. This is not always the case, I know.
