I've really got to learn to just do the damage and get out of town. It's the 'stay and gloat' that gets me every time.

Ethan Rayne ,'Potential'


Natter 78: I might need to watch some Buffy for inspiration

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Dana - May 15, 2026 7:20:41 am PDT #12679 of 12726
I haven't trusted science since I saw the film "Flubber."

I have an objection to register about today's Connections.

"Palm" and "Pom(eranian)" are not homophones.


meara - May 15, 2026 7:48:01 am PDT #12680 of 12726

Dana you made me go do connections so I could read your spoiler font, and while I did get it with no mistakes, I immediately said “oh I bet what Dana said is…” and I was right. And I agree with you. (I ended up with the last four because I’d gotten the others and not because I knew what they were supposed to be)


DavidS - May 15, 2026 8:04:29 am PDT #12681 of 12726
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Heartwarming memories per my calendar of the Hec and JZ wedding. I understand the element of melancholy but mostly I remember it being magnificent and magical.

I have a pile-up of associations with this date now: Our wedding anniversary, JZ's memorial, Bay-To-Breakers this weekend (and the bizarre memory of having to cross the race full of people running in dinosaur costumes with JZ's ashes to deliver them to her mother).

22 years ago, Jacqueline and I got married. And it was magical.

In a moment of synchrony, shuffle just pulled up The Smiths "There Is A Light That Never Goes Out."


askye - May 15, 2026 8:18:56 am PDT #12682 of 12726
Thrive to spite them

I only saw pictures of your wedding but it was magical.

(((David)))

We have answers for mom! She has statin intolerance. They must have called her first thing because she let me know before 830.

She will go off her meds and they are going to monitor her. She has an appointment on Monday and I guess she is going to drive herself. Because I work and I have Tuesday off but if I switch my day off to Monday that means I work 6 days In a row and I cant do that.

I'm going to see how she's doing tomorrow and see if I should go up there tomorrow or wait until Tuesday.


askye - May 15, 2026 1:12:18 pm PDT #12683 of 12726
Thrive to spite them

Mom update. The dr called her back and said after doing some research the statin allergy/intolerance could cause auto immune issues so she has ordered some more bloodwork and I'll take mom to get that tomorrow. Also her follow up appointment is Wed there was a miscommunication at the doctor's office or something.

Also this isn't Mom's regular doctor. Her regular doctor is in Sweden celebrating her 40th birthday with some friends in a No Husbands No Kids trip so tbe dr mom saw is another in tbr practice that is covering for her.

I also heard back from the retirement community really near me. They have a 3-= year wait for apartments and a ten year wait for villas. I figured it was a long shot.


JenP - May 15, 2026 2:43:52 pm PDT #12684 of 12726

Health ~ma to your mom, askye.

Go, regular doctor with the friends trip, though! Squad goals... maybe for 60. Which is only 18 or so months away, holy wow.

We are watching my latest addition to the comfort movie list tonight, yay. I don't particularly need comfort, but DH just procured it. It's Project Hail Mary. I'm so happy to add it to the arsenal.

Well... that's a natural question for the group, isn't it?

What are a couple or three of your go-to comfort movies?

(Mine are not all especially great movies, but they make ME happy. Independence Day, for example.)

So... what are yours?


DavidS - May 15, 2026 2:52:13 pm PDT #12685 of 12726
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

What are a couple or three of your go-to comfort movies?

JZ had some lesser known rom coms on VHS that she loved: The Cutting Edge, Fools Rush In (Matthew Perry and Salma Hayek). Also Holiday (Cary and Kate) and African Queen.

Comfort movies for me: Miyazaki, especially Howl but also Kiki and Spirited Away and Porco Rosso. Also 80s comedies like Something Wild, Bull Durham, After Hours, Only You (Maris Tomei and Robert Downey, Jr.). Classic Screwballs: Lady Eve, Bringing Up Baby, Philadelphia Story, More the Merrier.


erikaj - May 15, 2026 3:56:31 pm PDT #12686 of 12726
"Somewhere in this building is our talent." Toby Ziegler, my spirit animal

we kind of bonded over the fact that I went to the afternoon movies to watch "Fools Rush In" and I consider it underrated.(Still have not been to a theater since the Before Times, but in college, I did that a lot.)


Tom Scola - May 15, 2026 3:58:46 pm PDT #12687 of 12726
They pay me in WOIMS

I walked past a bar today that had a neon sign for Malört in the window. Why would you feel the need to advertise that? Why not just have a sign that says A Punch In The Throat instead?


Sophia Brooks - May 15, 2026 4:19:15 pm PDT #12688 of 12726
Cats to become a rabbit should gather immediately now here

We bonded over The Cutting Edge.

I think my comfort movies are The Thin Man, The Holiday and The Cutting Edgr I was very disappointed I couldn’t get anyone to go with me to a local screening.

So, this death thing is onerous. I mean, my mom has the least complicated estate ever (no debt, owned house, no stocks, just bank accounts) and there is only me. But I have to decide whether to sell the house or move there. The house is a fixer upper, but she catastrophized. I don’t really want it torn down, it is from 1815. But if someone cant get a mortgage it might have to go as is. The real estate market in Livonia is insane right now too. So it’s a lot of pressure