Dana you made me go do connections so I could read your spoiler font, and while I did get it with no mistakes, I immediately said “oh I bet what Dana said is…” and I was right. And I agree with you. (I ended up with the last four because I’d gotten the others and not because I knew what they were supposed to be)

Heartwarming memories per my calendar of the Hec and JZ wedding. I understand the element of melancholy but mostly I remember it being magnificent and magical.

I have a pile-up of associations with this date now: Our wedding anniversary, JZ's memorial, Bay-To-Breakers this weekend (and the bizarre memory of having to cross the race full of people running in dinosaur costumes with JZ's ashes to deliver them to her mother).

22 years ago, Jacqueline and I got married. And it was magical.

In a moment of synchrony, shuffle just pulled up The Smiths "There Is A Light That Never Goes Out."

I only saw pictures of your wedding but it was magical.

(((David)))

We have answers for mom! She has statin intolerance. They must have called her first thing because she let me know before 830.

She will go off her meds and they are going to monitor her. She has an appointment on Monday and I guess she is going to drive herself. Because I work and I have Tuesday off but if I switch my day off to Monday that means I work 6 days In a row and I cant do that.

I'm going to see how she's doing tomorrow and see if I should go up there tomorrow or wait until Tuesday.

Mom update. The dr called her back and said after doing some research the statin allergy/intolerance could cause auto immune issues so she has ordered some more bloodwork and I'll take mom to get that tomorrow. Also her follow up appointment is Wed there was a miscommunication at the doctor's office or something.

Also this isn't Mom's regular doctor. Her regular doctor is in Sweden celebrating her 40th birthday with some friends in a No Husbands No Kids trip so tbe dr mom saw is another in tbr practice that is covering for her.

I also heard back from the retirement community really near me. They have a 3-= year wait for apartments and a ten year wait for villas. I figured it was a long shot.

Health ~ma to your mom, askye.

Go, regular doctor with the friends trip, though! Squad goals... maybe for 60. Which is only 18 or so months away, holy wow.

We are watching my latest addition to the comfort movie list tonight, yay. I don't particularly need comfort, but DH just procured it. It's Project Hail Mary. I'm so happy to add it to the arsenal.

Well... that's a natural question for the group, isn't it?

What are a couple or three of your go-to comfort movies?

(Mine are not all especially great movies, but they make ME happy. Independence Day, for example.)

So... what are yours?

What are a couple or three of your go-to comfort movies?

JZ had some lesser known rom coms on VHS that she loved: The Cutting Edge, Fools Rush In (Matthew Perry and Salma Hayek). Also Holiday (Cary and Kate) and African Queen.

Comfort movies for me: Miyazaki, especially Howl but also Kiki and Spirited Away and Porco Rosso. Also 80s comedies like Something Wild, Bull Durham, After Hours, Only You (Maris Tomei and Robert Downey, Jr.). Classic Screwballs: Lady Eve, Bringing Up Baby, Philadelphia Story, More the Merrier.

we kind of bonded over the fact that I went to the afternoon movies to watch "Fools Rush In" and I consider it underrated.(Still have not been to a theater since the Before Times, but in college, I did that a lot.)

I walked past a bar today that had a neon sign for Malört in the window. Why would you feel the need to advertise that? Why not just have a sign that says A Punch In The Throat instead?

We bonded over The Cutting Edge.

I think my comfort movies are The Thin Man, The Holiday and The Cutting Edgr I was very disappointed I couldn’t get anyone to go with me to a local screening.

So, this death thing is onerous. I mean, my mom has the least complicated estate ever (no debt, owned house, no stocks, just bank accounts) and there is only me. But I have to decide whether to sell the house or move there. The house is a fixer upper, but she catastrophized. I don’t really want it torn down, it is from 1815. But if someone cant get a mortgage it might have to go as is. The real estate market in Livonia is insane right now too. So it’s a lot of pressure

Also, right now I am not really feeling grief for my mother, but somehow for my grandma, who loved that house and garden. My mother’s neighbor said he could tell someone used to love the garden and I have such good memories of helping her with it as a little girl. So I am in fantasy land I think about moving home and fixing a house.

I came across my mother’s notebooks and it is clear that she has thought she was dying since 2007. She apparently was in a lot of pain. She was also increasingly paranoid and was writing down in detail every marketing call and every interaction with service people. Boy did she hate her one neighbor and I think lived to spite him, so I absolutely cannot sell to him. I think I might right now be happy for her that she is out of such pain.

And I myself have been super depressed, neglecting my health, and afraid of dying for a couple of years, so this is a real wake up call.