Its not traumatic or even that upsetting to have to remind myself over and over again that she's dead but, seriously? Multiple times in the course of a meal?It's over and over for so dang long. It's the worst club.
I'm just, uh, just feeling kinda... truthsome right now. And, uh... life's just too damn short for ifs and maybes.
Mal ,'Heart Of Gold'
Natter 78: I might need to watch some Buffy for inspiration
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Cass - Apr 30, 2026 3:27:53 pm PDT #12483 of 13138
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Laura - Apr 30, 2026 4:25:35 pm PDT #12484 of 13138
Our wings are not tired.
It's been 10 years since mom has been gone and I still think I have to call her when I get home from a trip.
Calli - Apr 30, 2026 6:19:14 pm PDT #12485 of 13138
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
Its not traumatic or even that upsetting to have to remind myself over and over again that she's dead but, seriously? Multiple times in the course of a meal?
Yes, that definitely happens. Dad died in 2009, and when the last Indiana Jones movie came out in 2023 my first thought was, “I should see that with Dad.”
NoiseDesign - Apr 30, 2026 6:46:29 pm PDT #12486 of 13138
Our wings are not tired
It's the worst club.
Truth.
askye - May 01, 2026 7:36:29 am PDT #12487 of 13138
Thrive to spite them
Its not traumatic or even that upsetting to have to remind myself over and over again that she's dead but, seriously? Multiple times in the course of a meal?
The other day I saw something and immediately thought of my cousin S and how he would like it and he's been gone for over a decade.
I'm in VA. Haven't been able to see my nephew because of his school and play. But have seen my brother. I realize that we don't have a ton in common and finding things to talk about is awkward.
Manassas is cool though
Matt the Bruins fan - May 01, 2026 8:32:42 am PDT #12488 of 13138
You have to remember that being a 5-time Olympic medalist means Hilary Knight has been playing hockey at an elite level at least 16 years. It's impossible for her to be a teenage girl less than 16 years old, thus the President's complete lack of interest.
It's been 8 years since my dad passed away, and I think I've reached the point where most unexpected reminders lead me on a fond journey through old memories with just a tinge of sadness.
erikaj - May 01, 2026 10:55:01 am PDT #12489 of 13138
"Somewhere in this building is our talent." Toby Ziegler, my spirit animal
I am going to read something I wrote at a Virtual May Day event today. Starting to get a little nervous. ETA: It's different with grandparents you don't see all the time, but there are things that make me think of them a lot.
JenP - May 01, 2026 1:08:34 pm PDT #12490 of 13138
I just realized that yesterday when -t asked me if I was doing anything for May Day, I processed her meaning as... May Day "modern-traditional style" like when my sister's class did a flag Maypole ribbon thing back in the, I'm going to say 60s. (I didn't exist yet, but my dad was movie camera dude, so I saw footage of that oddness.) Like, origins in fertility ritual, though I know it was teansmogrified into agricultural/season change celebration, still sort of odd in a decidedly not agricultural communuty in a private school outside of Wilmington, DE with a bunch of kids in uniforms. Weird. Anyway...
That is not the May Day she meant. I also conflated it a little with Cinco de Mayo, I think.
I mean, the answer is still, "No," but I might have said more if I hadn't been having a brain fart. Sorry, -t!
P.M. Marc - May 01, 2026 1:15:55 pm PDT #12491 of 13138
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Mother's Day is going to suck this year. A year ago, we didn't know her cancer had started to grow again. We didn't know until mid-to-late May. I had no idea it would be our last Mother's Day.
When I got home from my (totally clean, go back in ten years) colonoscopy on Tuesday, my sense of smell was even more acute than usual for some reason (probable reason: I was high as a kite), and the lilacs in full bloom were overwhelming. All I could think was how much Mom would have loved the smell.
This club sucks.
Trudy Booth - May 01, 2026 3:38:24 pm PDT #12492 of 13138
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
Manassas is cool though
I once met up with an old college boyfriend for the weekend and at first we got along great and then we, two grown-ass adults, got into an absolute fucking screaming match in the middle of that battle field. This was evermore referred to as Third Manassas and we never tried dating again.
Definitely dreading Mother's Day, from both ends now.