I think I saw something on bsky not long ago. Not sure how to find it again, though.

Has anyone seen/heard from Monty (gc) lately? I realized I haven’t, a friend was talking about Gentleman Jack and I was thinking of her

She's off FB, but I see her Dear Wife there periodically.

I am suffering the consequences of inadequate documentation -- I have 2 dentist appointments this week, one today and one Wednesday: one is for a crown fitting, and one is for a regular cleaning. I put them on the calendar on the correct days with the times, but not what the appointments are for. So I have an appointment in 40 minutes, and it's going to be like playing the lottery. Crown? Cleaning? Bet now!

GC on BlueSky. She posted 3 days ago (about Gentleman Jack).

Thanks tom! I’m not on bsky so didn’t know!

Thank you for checking in, Shir and Nilly.

Help me, b.org hivemind and talk me out of my anxiety. I let my boss know that I've had a migraine for six days straight and may drop off work after our 1:1. She said she was sorry to hear that, that my health was my top priority, and sent me the information links for leaves and accommodations and the contact info for the Leaves team.

The Brain Raccoons, of course, are aaaaaaaallllllll over this. What if asking for accommodations and/or changes in scheduled work hours is going to be used against me? OMG I can't lose this job; I'm 57 and technical writing/editing jobs are getting scarcer and scarcer. OMG I CAN'T LOSE THIS JOB BECAUSE OF FUCKING INSURANCE. Plus, of course, this is a brand new role for me (program manager) and I am beating myself up because I'm not immediately perfect at it and all-knowing. Soooooo fun.

I think that would be illegal, for them to use it against you, Jilli.(Not that that isn't a fight then, but you do have power and rights, is my point there.) Nobody is born knowing their new job, either. The Brain Raccoons talk a lot of shit.

Jilli, my brain goblins would go to the exact same place as yours (and have, and will again), so I get where you're coming from. But since it isn't happening to me (right now), I can tell you your Brain Raccoons are mistaken, and don't seem to have a good grasp of HR principles. Like erika said, it would be illegal. But also, I don't think your boss would send you information about leaves and accommodations if she didn't (1) recognize that you were entitled to them, or (2) think you legitimately deserved them.

She also isn't offering the leaves and accommodations as a trap, to see if you'll be a "Good Employee" and turn it down while you bravely struggle through working with a migraine. There is no incentive for your company to act like that. It's genuine and being offered in good faith, and your Brain Raccoons need to hush up and let you take care of yourself.

Unrelated: the dentist appointment was to get a scan for a crown on an implant. But the dentist was running suuuuper behind, and it's not like it's an emergency for me, and I live less than a mile away and work from home, so it's no big deal to reschedule. He was so relieved when I offered.

So: Wednesday is teeth cleaning, and some time later this week will be crown scan. My life is a carnival.