GC on BlueSky. She posted 3 days ago (about Gentleman Jack).

Thanks tom! I’m not on bsky so didn’t know!

Thank you for checking in, Shir and Nilly.

Help me, b.org hivemind and talk me out of my anxiety. I let my boss know that I've had a migraine for six days straight and may drop off work after our 1:1. She said she was sorry to hear that, that my health was my top priority, and sent me the information links for leaves and accommodations and the contact info for the Leaves team.

The Brain Raccoons, of course, are aaaaaaaallllllll over this. What if asking for accommodations and/or changes in scheduled work hours is going to be used against me? OMG I can't lose this job; I'm 57 and technical writing/editing jobs are getting scarcer and scarcer. OMG I CAN'T LOSE THIS JOB BECAUSE OF FUCKING INSURANCE. Plus, of course, this is a brand new role for me (program manager) and I am beating myself up because I'm not immediately perfect at it and all-knowing. Soooooo fun.

I think that would be illegal, for them to use it against you, Jilli.(Not that that isn't a fight then, but you do have power and rights, is my point there.) Nobody is born knowing their new job, either. The Brain Raccoons talk a lot of shit.

Jilli, my brain goblins would go to the exact same place as yours (and have, and will again), so I get where you're coming from. But since it isn't happening to me (right now), I can tell you your Brain Raccoons are mistaken, and don't seem to have a good grasp of HR principles. Like erika said, it would be illegal. But also, I don't think your boss would send you information about leaves and accommodations if she didn't (1) recognize that you were entitled to them, or (2) think you legitimately deserved them.

She also isn't offering the leaves and accommodations as a trap, to see if you'll be a "Good Employee" and turn it down while you bravely struggle through working with a migraine. There is no incentive for your company to act like that. It's genuine and being offered in good faith, and your Brain Raccoons need to hush up and let you take care of yourself.

Unrelated: the dentist appointment was to get a scan for a crown on an implant. But the dentist was running suuuuper behind, and it's not like it's an emergency for me, and I live less than a mile away and work from home, so it's no big deal to reschedule. He was so relieved when I offered.

So: Wednesday is teeth cleaning, and some time later this week will be crown scan. My life is a carnival.

She also isn't offering the leaves and accommodations as a trap, to see if you'll be a "Good Employee" and turn it down while you bravely struggle through working with a migraine.

Do I have decades of trauma from working at Microsoft? Yes, yes I do.

Do I have decades of trauma from working at Microsoft? Yes, yes I do.

Honestly, your brain raccoons are just trying to protect you; they're just *too* good at it. They're overreacting, or pre-reacting, or something. You and the raccoons will be absolutely fine if you take care of yourself.

Same, Tep. I know there are bigger problems out there, but more fun might make it easier to fight through the tough stuff. Sadly, boss, more fun doesn't include a lot of unpaid phone shifts that people are all "Thank you for your service," about. I wonder if I'll ever find passion for that again, since that's mostly what I get from it, being part of a minority that both parties, well, let's be nice and say "tend to ignore"--but I've stayed away this past week cause I've been kind of congested and don't want to lose my voice talking to every machine on the Western Seaboard...Did that once for Obama--don't remember if that was allergies or me just trying to do WAY too much, but it lasted for three days.(poncy bugger owes me fifty quid) I don't do a hundred calls in two days anymore, though...the candidates aren't there when I'm all Don Vito. Doing better today--haven't felt*bad* but distracted, and, well, mucusy.quite frankly. a lot of literal sucking on lozenges and whatnot.