"So, I want us to be married, but I just don't want a wedding. I'm sorry." Poor guy was so worried about not having a wedding, and didn't see that the married part was the cool part for me.
This is pretty much me. I'm not opposed to a wedding (well, if it were tiny, like just us and our immediate families), but my social anxiety actually makes me loathe the idea (everyone will fucking HUG me and I might die from it). I don't really give a crap about being a *bride*; I just want to be his *wife.*
This is the perfect time to tell me to shut up without divulging any further information, but do you want to be engaged, Steph? If so, would you being the one to ask not make it right?
I do want to (well, I'd be fine with us jumping right to being married), but I got the feeling from him that he wants to be the one to ask. Even though he's SLOW AS HELL.
So unsweetened cornmeal porridge is better than sweetened? Huh.
Me, I had cream of wheat for breakfast with sugar and butter and maple syrup. And I took the day off, because even a quiet day at home is better than a day UTTERLY BORED at work. Except it won't be a quiet day at home: I'm going to call the plumber and the movers and the landscaping company. And go climbing with my niece. And take the dog for a long walk. And clean my house and go to Good Will. And maybe even line up a storage facility so I can start moving crap out of my garage.
For Teppy and other Bat-fans: Batman Bookshelves - Neatorama
Oooh, I was going to go to Ikea for new bookshelves (seriously, we literally can't rearrange the living room because the bookshelves my dad made me when I was 7 [yup, I've had the same bookshelves for 34 years] are too fucking big), but maybe I'll just get a whole bunch of Batshelves and put them EVERYWHERE!
I do want to (well, I'd be fine with us jumping right to being married), but I got the feeling from him that he wants to be the one to ask. Even though he's SLOW AS HELL.
Will that also be the case between proposal and wedding? Because you're part of this too. You don't have to be 100% on his taking-his-time schedule.
Will that also be the case between proposal and wedding? Because you're part of this too.
Oh, crap. I just remembered how much his dad will lose his shit if we don't get married in a church. Ideally, the Catholic church. Super ideally, HIS freaky parish which teaches things like Your Salvation Is Dependent On Getting Your Children To Come Back To The Church (THIS Church).
...huh. Staying shacked up actually seems WAY better in the face of that.
I just remembered how much his dad will lose his shit if we don't get married in a church.
He'll get over it. I suspect my parents have seriously glossed over in their memories all the drama they caused during my sister's wedding (to the Old Black Muslim). Threatened to not come, etc....but in the end, no priest, no Catholocism, and they were there, paid for some of it, and these days act like he's just fine by them. (Insert serious eye-roll)
If he got over the divorce, and the up-shacking...
I wonder if you go to Vegas to elope, is there a Batman chapel? I would be so down for that.
If he got over the divorce, and the up-shacking...
Heh. Fair point. I think in his mind, he's just biding his time and playing a long game to get us all Catholic and whatnot again.
I love how I started out lamenting that Tim didn't propose, and now I'm suddenly planning my drive-thru Vegas Batman non-Catholic elopement.
