other people finding your partner attractive in a context such as this makes you appreciate them more, sometime
Oh, man, I am from hell on this. Tim is growing his hair out, and it's long enough that people notice the difference and comment on it. We were out to dinner with a group of friends, and when we were leaving, standing around saying goodbye, one woman, started running her hands through Tim's hair, so then another woman did it. When a third one stepped up to do it, I finally snapped and said, "I'm sorry, but please stop fondling my boyfriend!"
They were nice about it and didn't punch me in the face for being such a bitch. I can't say I wouldn't do exactly the same thing if I could re-live the situation. It was just...too many people, pawing at my boyfriend in front of me, all at the same time. Gah.
He puts up with a LOT of shit from me.
The Princess and the Pea is not a fairytale, but a documentary on her life.
Oh, man, I have days like that. This tag ITCHES. There isn't any BACON. The litterbox STINKS. I don't like my CLOTHES. The floor is DIRTY. WHY is my LIFE so HARD?
There isn't any BACON.
Damn, I want bacon now. I'm such an easy mark.
meara, I can totally see that being a hard thing.
Jessica, ITA.
And Steph, it's a YMMV thing, for sure. My close girlfrieds -- I don't care. As long as I knew D was OK with it, and it was making him feel good about himself.
A not-that-close friend(s) doing it? Um. Bitch, I will CUT you.
A not-that-close friend(s) doing it? Um. Bitch, I will CUT you.
Actually, you saying that made me stop and think, and there *are* some friends (well, a scant few) I wouldn't have a problem with doing that. These women weren't really what I would call "close" friends. It's not that I don't like them, but...boundaries, people!
Then there was a whole thing with a pool party at the house of some friends -- their yard has a lot of privacy, and so after dark they were all "Skinny-dipping! Yay!" Which is fine, I'm not going to do it in mixed company EVER, but if other people want to, that's cool.
So people were swimming, and eventually it was only Tim left in the pool (in swim trunks), when suddenly a woman (who I am admittedly not fond of) said -- TO ME -- "Oh, Tim's in the pool! I'm getting in!", stripped off her suit, and jumped in the pool and swam over to him, all naked and so forth.
One of our friends told me later he couldn't believe I reacted without swearing or losing my shit. I just walked over to the pool and gave Tim the silent stinkeye, and he asked, "Is it time for me to get out?"
He did ask me later why I did that, and I told him what the woman had said, and that I found it really aggressive and predatory, and it made me really uncomfortable. He asked me if I thought he wouldn't be able to deflect if she got all weird, and I said, "I wasn't thinking about YOU; I was thinking about HER."
Damn, I want bacon now. I'm such an easy mark.
Did I link to [link] yet? (conceptually NSFW, but words and pictures are fine)
I once had a woman say "I'm attracted to D. Tell D I'm attracted to him." while I was dating D. Because I am who I am (but I'm not sure she was bright enough to get that), I told him she wanted in his pants. He looked quizzically at me. I said "It's a piece of information about you, for you. So I told you. Do with it what you want." That was the last I thought about it. I didn't do anything to try and limit their time together or anything.
The dude clarified that when he typed attraction, he didn't mean, "I think she's hot" or "I think she's hot and would like to bed her down" but deep romantic attraction, and that it was because of the painfulness of being attracted (in those terms) to someone who isn't attracted to you.
But I think that's pretty reasonable self-preservation, no matter which gender/orientation you are.
The dude clarified that when he typed attraction, he didn't mean, "I think she's hot" or "I think she's hot and would like to bed her down" but deep romantic attraction, and that it was because of the painfulness of being attracted (in those terms) to someone who isn't attracted to you.
That makes sense in that light.
Yeah, I was glad for the discussion because the dude who was making the argument...it seemed very out-of-sorts for that particular commenter. It just took post after post after post of misunderstanding to get there.
