Damn, I want bacon now. I'm such an easy mark.
Did I link to [link] yet? (conceptually NSFW, but words and pictures are fine)
I once had a woman say "I'm attracted to D. Tell D I'm attracted to him." while I was dating D. Because I am who I am (but I'm not sure she was bright enough to get that), I told him she wanted in his pants. He looked quizzically at me. I said "It's a piece of information about you, for you. So I told you. Do with it what you want." That was the last I thought about it. I didn't do anything to try and limit their time together or anything.
The dude clarified that when he typed attraction, he didn't mean, "I think she's hot" or "I think she's hot and would like to bed her down" but deep romantic attraction, and that it was because of the painfulness of being attracted (in those terms) to someone who isn't attracted to you.
But I think that's pretty reasonable self-preservation, no matter which gender/orientation you are.
The dude clarified that when he typed attraction, he didn't mean, "I think she's hot" or "I think she's hot and would like to bed her down" but deep romantic attraction, and that it was because of the painfulness of being attracted (in those terms) to someone who isn't attracted to you.
That makes sense in that light.
Yeah, I was glad for the discussion because the dude who was making the argument...it seemed very out-of-sorts for that particular commenter. It just took post after post after post of misunderstanding to get there.
the dude who was making the argument...it seemed very out-of-sorts for that particular commenter.
In that case, I apologize for calling him a douchebag and retract my earlier comment.
(I still don't think it's a good idea for anyone to be making statements that begin "all men..." or "all women..." but that's a separate pet peeve.)
On its face, it was a douchey comment. And I've been edgy since "there are no women rock musicians...if I redefine musician to only mean people with penises."
OK that makes much more sense.
But yeah, what Jess said.
Steph, I think all of those women are out of line! But since I'm a non-touchy person, I take touching seriously.
My mother and I still scream about a family friend touching my father's face in the middle of a conversation, years ago.
OK that makes much more sense.
But yeah, what Jess said.
Yep.
And ita !, I would totes tell D someone found him attractive, because that's nice for him to hear. On 2nd thought -- depends on context, on whether person saying it would freak him out.
But I have total faith in him, so...
Tep, in that sitch, I'ma strip down, dive gracefully in the pool and do my best "My tits are awesome AND REAL, back down, don't make my man uncomfortable or try to get in his face" thing. Because I'm protective and bitchy like that.
