I know - it's adorable.

I wonder if it is a young bear?

Remember nephew #2 who got two young women pregnant at the same time a few years back? Well, they are both lunatics. He lives with one and they are raising their daughter but Crazy Baby Mama #2 is withholding visitation from him. So the man who NEVER contacts me otherwise just sent me a FB message asking for $1000 to hire a lawyer for him to get into court to try to get his visitation with one of his five year old daughters.

I'm sorry for his situation but SERIOUSLY????? FACEBOOK???

Wait, which sitcom is this?

Oh, right. Actual life. Oy.

Wait, which sitcom is this?

It's like Raising Hope without the fun or the ukelele.

Cash, that is unbelievable.

Bear! Aw.

Funny thing I realized this morning -- I don't even know where "Namaste, motherfucker," originated or what the story is, but I cannot see the word namaste (I don't hear it often in my world) without appending the word motherfucker. Fortunately I resist the urge to say it out loud, and, as of this morning, to reply with it on someone else's FB feed. pats self on back

I blame b.org.

Also, it's just funny.

msbelle, I'm sorry I didn't see your post last night. You should be fine switching from Zoloft to Celexa. You might have a few mild side effects, but probably not.

A Twitter feed for Teppy, Papyrus Watch

That is EXCELLENT. t bookmarks

Men cannot be friends with women they are attracted to

So this means that I can't be friends with any of the Buffistas I've ever met? Cause y'all are foamy.

I realize my confusion is partly because I'm the representative from Planet Demisexual, but -- isn't there a difference between being attracted TO someone, and thinking that they are attractive? I generally assume being attracted TO someone is, basically, wanting to have sex with them, whereas finding them attractive is, well, finding them pleasing to look at.

I think a lot of people are attractive, but don't want to sex them up, which I would call *not* being attracted TO them.

But, like I said, I know my perspective is skewed, and I literally have no idea if other people walk around wanting to sex up dozens of people, or what. No clue.

I think there's a continuum there, Tep. For my own case, being attracted to someone means I seek out ways to spend time with them, engage with them in some sort of friendly way, and express my affection for them. How that affection is expressed will vary widely from person to person, according to what feels comfortable for them and for me. (And occasionally, I'm not so good at reading what is comfortable and what is not. Sorry about that.)

For other people, it's more directly sexually focused. But for me, it has more to do with affection and re-assurance, the sense of being there for one another. Solidarity.

As a side note, especially when I was younger, I had tremendous difficulty projecting attraction/enthusiasm for someone without having that someone think that I wanted to 'sex them up' immediately. I think the culture definitely encourages us to think exclusively in sexual terms when it comes to crushes, attraction, etc. And I think that is quite often harmful to people of a demi- or asexual bent, as well as twisting some otherwise valuable, mutually-supportive friendships into "you can't be friends with someone you're attracted to."

Does this make any sense at all?

isn't there a difference between being attracted TO someone, and thinking that they are attractive?

Sure, absolutely.

Karl, I get what you're saying, but I can't tell from your post if you think there's a distinction between "attracted TO" and "finds attractive." You don't *have* to find a distinction; like I said, I'm very aware that my perspective is not the prevailing one. Maybe there is no distinction for most people -- that's what I was asking.