Hil, keep it up. My experience has been that guys are impressed with girls who make the first move (what fucking decade is it again?). If you answer a bunch of questions, it (supposedly) improves your matches. I mean, I certainly had mixed/bizarre experiences on OKC, but on the whole I liked it better than Match and it is free. It's where I met the dude who wouldn't tell me how to pronounce his name, but it's also where I met StW. ::shrugs::

Behold my fearsome frugality! I overspent at the market yesterday (no regrets - fanTAStic pecans for $10/lb) so instead of buying dish soap I grated a scrap of bar soap I don't like, added a bit of HE laundry liquid, and just a splash of Citrasolv. Added hot water and whisked with a fork repeatedly, and voila! Works just dandy. With that and postponing buying Dr. Bronners, I've made up for at least $10.

I'm also going to alternate my morning coffee with morning tea, since I have a bunch of Yorkshire gold to go through. Now to menu plan and see what I *have* to buy at the grocery store.

I also *finally* did all the dishes and cleaned my kitchen and bathroom sinks, and wiped my computer screen, iphone, and bedroom mirror with a microfiber cloth.

It just seems odd to me to have that as a "definitely no" thing. It seems more like an "it would depend on the person" thing.

Some things are just dealbreakers. I wouldn't date someone who wasn't a reader (you know what I mean; like a fairly avid reader.)

I didn't respond to a lot of messages on OKC because I would look at their book list and it wasn't there, or it was shite.

Judgmental? Sure. But why set myself up for failure? And really, who would message me when my profile was basically BOOKS GIVE ME LADYBONERS.

I didn't respond to a lot of messages on OKC because I would look at their book list and it wasn't there, or it was shite.

I haven't put together my book list yet. I keep trying to, and end up wanting to list every book, and I can't narrow it down. At all.

I think a lot of people have this image, wrongly or rightly, that vegans and vegetarians are going to judge them for eating meat or wearing leather, etc. Especially in the part of Pennsylvania you're in, the veg lifestyle can be more exotic than a lot of people want to cope with.

I'm also kind of puzzled at how many people say that they won't date a vegetarian or vegan.

I would (and have) date a vegetarian, provided they're not hardcore about me eating meat--I eat plenty of tofu, happily. I rarely cook meat at home (but will eat it out, or heat up something frozen with meat, at home). But vegan is too hard--it really limits the restaurants we could go to or the meals we could eat together. I love cheese and butter.

I just glanced at my nearest bookshelf and listed the first fifteen I loved.

I think a lot of people have this image, wrongly or rightly, that vegans and vegetarians are going to judge them for eating meat or wearing leather, etc. Especially in the part of Pennsylvania you're in, the veg lifestyle can be more exotic than a lot of people want to cope with.

Pretty much everyone I'm looking at is affiliated with the university, and so comes from somewhere else.

Hil, keep it up. My experience has been that guys are impressed with girls who make the first move (what fucking decade is it again?).

FWIW, Wallybee was the one who contacted me.

Vegan is hard; I wouldn't have ruled it out, but it would have made me sad. Veggie wouldn't have been a problem.

I'm agnostic, but I wouldn't have ruled anyone out on religion; however, I would have if they were more than casual about it, for the most part. Not a comment on you, Hil, and I would have taken it on a case-by-case basis.

Like (I'm taking her name in vain!) JZ is very invested in her religion, but I could totally have dated a boy-JZ. I would not have been able to seriously date someone for whom to be married I would have had to convert. It would have been deeply hypocritical, and I couldn't have done it.

I don't think I could even have had a particularly religious ceremony. Elements of culture, sure, but actual god-bits? It would have had to have been very carefully done. Huh. I dunno.

I guess JZ and I's love is doomed. I can't marry you, darlink. You, either, Hil. I know you're devastated...

(Tangent: Good grief, I cannot have 4 periods in an ellipsis. I have to have 3 every time, and if I've used more than three accidentally, it makes me crazy.)

ETA: I contacted Dan.