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'Safe'


Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Aims - Jul 09, 2009 11:41:27 am PDT #15938 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.

Also - asking Tep a question since she is Kink Representative in these here parts.

Where is the kink line? By which I mean, when is something considered kink? Is it unique to the individual/partners or is there a compartmentalization of "This is kink. That is just erotic."

(And apologies if I offend with simplicity or asinine words.)


Sean K - Jul 09, 2009 11:41:50 am PDT #15939 of 30000
You can't leave me to my own devices; my devices are Nap and Eat. -Zenkitty

The Boy is still confused by the prevalence of corsets among the Buffistas who are not kinky, because he considers them a Kink 101 garment.

I would think a simple "not everyone thinks the way you do," would suffice. Not in a mean way or anything, but I am a bit surprised that The Boy can't step outside of his own view of the world long enough to see that some people may just see a corset as something pretty to wear.


JZ - Jul 09, 2009 11:43:47 am PDT #15940 of 30000
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.

They provide better boobage support than do regular bras and also help with the posture.

And, if you have any interest at all in historical fashion, you very quickly develop an eye for them--all sorts of period movies and shows and plays start looking either exactly right or just fundamentally wrong. Dresses hang wrong, boobs look wrong under them, in a particular artfully framed shot you can't appreciate the aesthetic beauty of it all because this or that character's silhouette is just suddenly so jarringly modern or sloppy.

I definitely like the way I look in a corset, but there's also a definite history-geek element to the whole thing for me too, and I can think of a few (not a lot, but definitely a few) comparatively non-kinky friends whose fondness for corsets is highly history-geeky.


omnis_audis - Jul 09, 2009 11:44:05 am PDT #15941 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir

JZ, I edited back a little spoiler font. If only I could have thought of an example of a search that began with ass, then it would have been better.

So. Um. Clearly my mind is not focusing on work. Does that mean I can leave early? Reading this book on how to run meetings is boring.


JZ - Jul 09, 2009 11:45:12 am PDT #15942 of 30000
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.

Hee! Not seriously offended or upset, omnis, but definitely squicked by that particular pair of words. Thanks for the retro-spoiler-fonting.


omnis_audis - Jul 09, 2009 11:47:03 am PDT #15943 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir

for you, the world.


Laga - Jul 09, 2009 11:53:30 am PDT #15944 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.

I'm not Tep but I think I can answer the kink line question.

It's kink if, after you've already consented to sex, it requires extra permission. Like, I wouldn't think twice about going down on someone but I'd probably ask before I smacked them on the ass.


Gudanov - Jul 09, 2009 11:55:01 am PDT #15945 of 30000
Coding and Sleeping

And no, nothing popped up in google on the first page, so I'm still a little curious.

If you didn't turn off safe search, then I'm going to guess not much would show up.


Trudy Booth - Jul 09, 2009 11:56:27 am PDT #15946 of 30000
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart

Someone witty said, "Erotic is when you use a feather. Kink is when you use the whole damn chicken."


Laura - Jul 09, 2009 11:56:52 am PDT #15947 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.

My 88yo mother was just saying a couple days ago she was thinking of getting a corset like her grandmother's because she knows it would help her backaches. She was wondering if her husband would pull the strings tight like she used to for her gram.