'Beneath You'
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
I honestly thought it was all a lie, a deception, something people are telling themselves to feel less alone in this world.
I know love exists, in the form of caring about other people.
But whether romantic love exists? Maybe. Maybe not. Whether people are lying to themselves or not, I'm not going to fault anyone for wanting to feel less alone in the world.
Which is all to say, thanks Shir.
And everybody else.
Good thing she's not a big cat.Incentive to NOT feed her table scraps. I catsat for a friend who had a pair of Manx, one had to weigh 20 pounds easy, and looked like a grey barrel. He loved to wake you in the morning by jumping on the bed (which would make you think it was an earthquake) then proceed to walk up your body and sit on your stomach/chest. As if to say, feed me, or I will stop you from breathing.
I wanna COMM Raq's comment, but don't want Sean to think we are laughing at his situation.
But on Raq's note, it's true. There are times when I think, sometimes its good to be alone. Having my choice of what to watch/listen to, wear or not wear what I want, can really help diffuse the stress from work. Not to say some cuddling or a roll in the hay wouldn't help too, but alone time is a very valuable thing.
Romantic love=addiction, to my mind. I don't think the higher elements of the brain are involve at all. Maybe it's all just pheremones. Maybe I had a weird cold when I met Hubby and he just smelled really good so I dragged him back to my lair and I kept him.
"In love" looks a lot like madness at this end of the life experience spectrum. I haven't gotten all giddy and giggly over Hubby in decades. But he's an inextricable portion of my life. It'd be like ripping off half of the letter A and expecting it to stand upright, if I lost him.
"In love" looks a lot like madness at this end of the life experience spectrum
Exactly my point. And yet, I'm the odd one when saying this is not what I want.
Why, world?
Edit: spelling.
Romantic love exists, but it's not what keeps a marriage going. You have to want to stay together even when you're not in love. (Which comes and goes.)
What I would miss most with Hubby is the ongoing conversation. We can say things with partial words that it would take others 20 minutes to say. We've developed tri-lingual puns and use quotes from shows we saw 20 years ago. Our friends will say, "Ignore them, they're speaking Neilish."
Also, customers shouldn't come in and open a chat with "I have a few issues." It just makes me laugh at them.
Dating is not the most helpful method for figuring out whether you want to be with someone for the long haul. A loty of of people are fun to be with at a cool restaurant or movie or while having terrific sex.
I don't think you should marry anyone unless you can enjoy doing things with them like scrubbing the bathtub while they are in the other room struggling to get the trash bag out of the can. Finding someone with whom it is fun to share the mundane is rare and to be treasured.
As always, Scrappy is wise.
I don't think you should marry anyone unless you can enjoy doing things with them like scrubbing the bathtub while they are in the other room struggling to get the trash bag out of the can. Finding someone with whom it is fun to share the mundane is rare and to be treasured.
Huh. I have friends like that....
Scrappy is wise, and I'm loving this discussion. But I'm still trying to figure out how Hec scaled the astral plane this morning before coffee.