Dating is not the most helpful method for figuring out whether you want to be with someone for the long haul. A loty of of people are fun to be with at a cool restaurant or movie or while having terrific sex.

I don't think you should marry anyone unless you can enjoy doing things with them like scrubbing the bathtub while they are in the other room struggling to get the trash bag out of the can. Finding someone with whom it is fun to share the mundane is rare and to be treasured.

As always, Scrappy is wise.

I don't think you should marry anyone unless you can enjoy doing things with them like scrubbing the bathtub while they are in the other room struggling to get the trash bag out of the can. Finding someone with whom it is fun to share the mundane is rare and to be treasured.

Huh. I have friends like that....

Scrappy is wise, and I'm loving this discussion. But I'm still trying to figure out how Hec scaled the astral plane this morning before coffee.

I say again, Scrappy for Chief of Buffista Isle.

So? Wear to find someone to scrub the tub and then go to a show? (rhetorical question)

Finding someone with whom it is fun to share the mundane is rare and to be treasured.

::nods::

So? Wear to find someone to scrub the tub and then go to a show? (rhetorical question)

Change your OKCupid name to TubScrubber.

As always, P-C is pragmatic.

Scrappy truly is wise.

The couples I see who really enjoy their differences and take pride in the way they manage life together are the strongest and most likely to weather any storm with grace.

For every wedding I officiate, I offer a paragraph from Corelli's Mandolin about how love is what is left over when lust and romance burn away. Every couple who sees it wants it in their vows. That gives me hope for their lives together.

It's hilarious, omnis, and please. I'm not that sensitive.

Really, I'm not in a bad place, guys. I was in a bad place last year. Now I'm just sad and lonely. BIG difference.

Dating is not the most helpful method for figuring out whether you want to be with someone for the long haul. A loty of of people are fun to be with at a cool restaurant or movie or while having terrific sex.

I don't think you should marry anyone unless you can enjoy doing things with them like scrubbing the bathtub while they are in the other room struggling to get the trash bag out of the can. Finding someone with whom it is fun to share the mundane is rare and to be treasured.

I'll take either right now, but I'm definitely NOT looking for giggly "in love" stuff. Not a teenager.

But I know what I am missing is the long term thing. I liked that a lot, and I miss it. Fierce. It wasn't so much the bad days that did my relationship in (though they were, to a one, pretty effin' bad). It was the dearth of good or even stress-free mundane days that did it.