Thank you all. Right now I am just trying to stabilize and wait, which I think may be frustrating people. I have to have a think when I am in my right mind. Which I am um, not in right now. Now is the time for my weekly call with my mom, so I am sad. I was keeping so much from her that it is somewhat of a relief but still. (Both the state of my mental health which was dismal-I oddly feel better now and that I was in contact with my father’s other kids, which would have been a big thing). Generational trauma yay?!?

A home inspection is probably a really good start! Good luck with everything. My dad had his shit fairly together and it’s still a nightmare and a pain trying to get all the paperwork and figure out all the steps and so on.

I feel bad, but this is out in the country and I can play the “I’m a lady who does not understand “ and people help me? It is terrible

Right now I am just trying to stabilize and wait, which I think may be frustrating people.

People can wait.

Sheryl, I'm so sorry. I'm sending wishes for comfort. May it lead to some better solution. Things can't really keep going the way they have been, for all of your family.

Sophia, decisions like this are exactly the kind you need to take your time with. I agree that a house inspection is a good idea. We did this prior to putting the house on the market to get a punch list of what needed to be done.

askye, I hope they get to the source of your mom's issue quickly.

Today is a day of celebration! Happiest birthday wishes to Vortex. I hope that you are having a fabulous birthday weekend and that the year to come brings all that you desire.

It is also the anniversary of the first F2F in 2002. Sophia was indeed a driving force behind that one, so thanks are sent. I have such delightful memories of the event.

I have such delightful memories of the event.

As do I!

Another blue sky morning in SF, so I'm venturing out to get coffee and victuals.

If I skip the long line at the buzzworthy new bakery, I can go to my standby and have their perfect sour cherry turnover. So good. I'm such a cherry slut.

Alas, I forgot it was Bay to Breakers this morning so my path to sour cherry turnovers is blocked.

I just unloaded emotionally on an old friend(seriously...we used to giggle together when we were five) who probably won't be able to absorb it. Not about her, mostly cause it's like crying in your beer with Mr. Spock. But maybe I finally understand why strangers tell me so many things,We've stayed in touch, throughout, but much less since her parents got divorced and her dad hit on my mom after we've all known each other about a million years.(We thought we would be supportive, but did not mean porn by that in any way whatever. Also, my mom was not interested in trying to solve their personal-care issues by leaving me with mine. Am jealous that she has a sister in the Bay Area and gets to live there. Not really that she kind of tanked her sister's marriage.ETA: Not to say the pervert didn't fall from the tree, my friend is just...demanding. Like a very bright ten-year-old that might still get bleeped if she went on TV.

Cereal: Mostly, talking to her makes me feel lonelier these days, but I keep hoping it won't. Maybe "Beaches" left a mark at a formative stage.(She does kind of look like/ give off vibes of Mayim Bialik, too, although not really Bette Midler. Maybe Amy Farrah Fowler, though.) We have kind of a tradition of exchanging birthday wishes...making a point of it, I should say, since you know, Americans do that, so it's not exotic, but...it was hers on the thirteenth. And as much as the relationship is kind of on life support, it seemed like making drama for drama's sake to not make the acknowledgement. ETA: Glad I checked in with her, she's had kind of a shitty year, but I'm not so sure that we Share anymore, either. Promise me that you'll visit once I go to the Home For The Terminally Ambivalent, but call first, because it's only open sometimes.(rimshot)