My condolences, Meara. And I'd say don't feel bad that you have to do things today. I could picture that, when it happens with my father that I might not know for a while...we're kind of not talking.(We had Divorce Christmas, though, but months go by routinely.)

meara, I'm so sorry.

Oh, meara, I'm so sorry.

I’m so sorry for your loss, meara. Sending you love and light.

I'm sorry, meara.

I recall marveling at a young age after my dad died that everything just... keeps happening. How weird, but true. And it's kind of a freash realization each time. Couches still need to get delivered, and when you get on the plane is when you get on the plane. Go easy on yourself.

I recall marveling at a young age after my dad died that everything just... keeps happening. How weird, but true.

Yeah. I think weirder because I'm home? When my mom died, I was there, at their house, so like, things were kind of on hold for me until I went home, and I had a few days of weird at their house (and fighting with my brother) whereas this time I'm just....at home keeping on keeping on.

I can see how that would feel extra unreal

yes, definitely.

meara, the morning my father died I went into the SF office as usual and one of my favourite colleagues asked me, "Are you all right? You seem a little thinkier than usual," and I just sort of looked at her and said, "My father passed away this morning." Her response was, "What are you even doing here?" and I had to say, "Most of the people who care about me are here. If I fall over, they'll catch me."

Obviously, your work situation may be different. But everyone does this a little differently, and what is right for you is right for you. We love you, and we will support you no matter what you need to do.