Simon: Captain... why did you come back for us? Mal: You're on my crew. Simon: Yeah, but you don't even like me. Why'd you come back? Mal: You're on my crew. Why we still talking about this?

'Safe'


ita's thread

A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.


DXMachina - Jan 13, 2015 9:24:36 am PST #31 of 3136
You always do this. We get tipsy, and you take advantage of my love of the scientific method.

There should be an ita archive so if accounts get closed, it is not lost.

One of the things I thought of after I heard the news was the table of ASCII and HTML entities that she kept up on her domain that I bookmarked years ago because it was just so damn useful. I still use it to this day (last Saturday, in fact).


Calli - Jan 13, 2015 9:26:49 am PST #32 of 3136
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

I love the idea of archiving ita's work. Please let me know if there's anything I can do to help with that.

It sounds odd, but one thing I liked was disagreeing with ita. It didn't happen often, but when it did we could argue things out in a straightforward but civil way. I tend to avoid conflict because I worry about losing friends. But I had the impression that ita welcomed the exchange of differing ideas, as long as The Stupid didn't get too thick. It was something I miss about my dad, and it's something I'm going to miss about ita, too.


Dana - Jan 13, 2015 9:33:45 am PST #33 of 3136
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."

Man, I'd totally forgotten about the Batman Fact Generator.

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DavidS - Jan 13, 2015 9:36:02 am PST #34 of 3136
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Ha, I found a recent discussion on I09 where she was digging into the casting issues with Ghost In The Shell and she just sounds....so like herself. Feisty without being contentious, strong POV, making people check their assumptions, putting things in context.

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This is just a week ago.

She's Serenada over there, though I'm sure you could tell that anyway.


DavidS - Jan 13, 2015 9:37:05 am PST #35 of 3136
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Hope it's okay, I wanted David's post in COMM here, too:

Of course!


Laura - Jan 13, 2015 9:37:18 am PST #36 of 3136
Our wings are not tired.

But I had the impression that ita welcomed the exchange of differing ideas, as long as The Stupid didn't get too thick.

Many of us learned quickly that we had better be prepared to back up random posts. She was able to be both challenging and comforting.

Damn, I can't stop crying.


DavidS - Jan 13, 2015 9:43:06 am PST #37 of 3136
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Many of us learned quickly that we had better be prepared to back up random posts.

Oh god yes! I have a Stop sign in my head labeled 'ita" just to check myself from making broad categorical generalizations.

She busted me on that shit so often.

There are small dedicated parts of my brain entirely dedicated to dialogue and discussions and fights I've had with her. Thinking it through still.

And I have to say on the very rare occasion that she conceded a point to me, getting a "hmph" from her was like getting a gold star from Dumbledore.


Miracleman - Jan 13, 2015 9:44:33 am PST #38 of 3136
No, I don't think I will - me, quoting Captain Steve Rogers, to all of 2020

I think secretly I always had half an eye on making ita laugh. Like, it's great to be COMM'ed, but if ita laughed...


Sean K - Jan 13, 2015 9:50:13 am PST #39 of 3136
You can't leave me to my own devices; my devices are Nap and Eat. -Zenkitty

making people check their assumptions

THIS! This right here. I do this to myself now because of her. This has helped make me a better person, to the extent that I am, because of her.


javachik - Jan 13, 2015 9:51:22 am PST #40 of 3136
Our wings are not tired.

(Cross-posted with Natter.)

Like you all, I am having a hard time fathoming this. And I am so grateful you're all here and remembering and talking and honoring. I am so incredibly sorry for her family and Paula, and Norah and Allyson and everyone.

My favorite memory was when I finally met her at Kristin and Drew's wedding and I said "I know you don't hug" and put my hand out to shake her hand. And she enveloped me in a bear hug and told me I was ridiculous.

As I shared on FB, we had just talked the Friday before she left for Jamaica. I had sent her a router and a TiVo earlier and we were getting through the password shenanigans. She was excited about starting at the new job when she returned, and I could hear a lilt of hope in her voice that I hadn't heard for a long time. I remember getting off the phone and thinking "2015 is going to be her year." Fuck.

I probably can't do much day-to-day stuff in person in LA, but I can send funds to help with transport or other details. And I do plan to attend any memorial.

I love you all. And those of you who are making brief visits to talk about ita, I am so glad you've come back to say hi.