Yes - I think a post-baby shower, in better traveling weather is a better decision.
I'd rather stay home and watch television. It's often funnier than killing stuff.
Anya ,'Dirty Girls'
Natter 69: Practically names itself.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
sumi - Dec 06, 2011 10:07:48 am PST #10124 of 30001
Art Crawl!!!
Amy - Dec 06, 2011 10:08:14 am PST #10125 of 30001
Because books.
Maybe suggest it as a "meet the baby!" party in June? Everyone will want to come for that, and your mom can still plan a party.
I know it's hard, but my suggestion would be to let her know that it's a lovely idea, but that flying at that stage is going to be stressful and eat up time you could be relaxing and SLEEPING before the baby comes. Maybe invite her to come down in February instead, too?
Sue - Dec 06, 2011 10:08:29 am PST #10126 of 30001
hip deep in pie
Yes, post-baby. And everyone will be thrilled to coo at/hold baby.
Kate P. - Dec 06, 2011 10:10:26 am PST #10127 of 30001
That's the pain / That cuts a straight line down through the heart / We call it love
But sooner than June to appease Mom.
Well, the reason to go in June is that another cousin is getting married in VT at the end of June. So we're already planning a trip to New England then, and hoping to stretch it into a couple of weeks, since I'll be off work anyway. The baby is due in mid-April, and I really don't see us making two long trips so soon after s/he is born. My parents and M's parents are all planning to come visit when the baby comes, so June will not be the first time that my parents will see the baby.
Cass - Dec 06, 2011 10:10:47 am PST #10128 of 30001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
June. Because you know she wants to do this lovely thing. But you're not comfortable traveling at that point in your pregnancy.
Toddson - Dec 06, 2011 10:11:26 am PST #10129 of 30001
Friends don't let friends read "Atlas Shrugged"
sumi, 'tis the season.
Our local flap is about a seasonal display on the grounds of a courthouse. They have a deal where there can be 10 displays - people send in their request to have a display and the first 10 get a place. Only one person, whose proposal was to have a display against the commercialism of the season, took a plastic skeleton, dressed it as Santa, then hung it on a cross. A local TV station was filming on-site and, while they were filming, a woman who objected to the display came by and dismantled it. She carefully took it apart and put the bits and pieces on the ground. When they asked her - in mid-dismantling - she said it was offensive and didn't they find it offensive.
Sparky1 - Dec 06, 2011 10:12:20 am PST #10130 of 30001
Librarian Warlord
I would also try to negotiate for the post-baby shower. As for being uncomfortable with the gifts, you can try and come up with something like we did: When people asked, we told them we'd love to receive books they'd loved as a child and to hear their memories of them.
Kate P. - Dec 06, 2011 10:12:43 am PST #10131 of 30001
That's the pain / That cuts a straight line down through the heart / We call it love
OK, I guess I will suggest a "meet the baby!" party for June instead. I dread making that phone call, but it does seem like a better plan. Thanks for the input, y'all.
meara - Dec 06, 2011 10:13:39 am PST #10132 of 30001
I would totally rather go to a "meet the baby!" party!! That sounds adorable!
Ginger - Dec 06, 2011 10:13:49 am PST #10133 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
I'm sure she means well, but I get annoyed by people who want to do things for someone, but on their terms. January seems both too close to the holidays and too close to motherhood. Also, you'd make a whole planeful of people try to remember first aid and whether boiling water is really necessary.