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She is most definitely making something that is not about her in any but the most general way (i.e.--that she exists, not about her personally) and making it About Her.
If my ex's new GF wrote something similar, I would probably haz a sad, but then realize that it's Not About Me and move on.
I think that's a great essay, Erin. And if she didn't want her crap discussed she should have dealt with it while the place was still her home. Abandoned crap is fair game.
Erin, what you wrote was not mean-spirited or inappropriate. She's being a drama queen.
Personally, I can see why it might make her sad. After all, it's literal baggage from a failed marriage and she was obviously not up to dealing with it herself. I currently have a house/garage full of baggage. And I'm not looking forward to dealing with it. But I don't think your piece was mean spirited at all. It was very much about you and your perspective.
I think her feelings are not that surprising, but she needs to keep them to herself.
smonster, tough but necessary; good on you for getting through it.
Erin, ffs, it's a good essay and Madam Drama Queen needs a couple Xanax with a perspective chaser.
I think her feelings are not that surprising, but she needs to keep them to herself.
I agree with this. I can see how reading a description of the literal detritus of her marriage would sting, but it wasn't a mean-spirited essay, it clearly wasn't about *her,* and she needs to just chill.
However, I think expecting any other response from her, given her actions in the past, is an exercise in futility.
Oh, and I didn't say the most important part -- it's a good essay, and I really enjoyed it, as the partner of a divorced dude (who does not have literal detritus from his ex, but wow, does he have a lot of emotional baggage, and yes, we are hitting the point where I've said "Marriage: it would kick ass," and he's said...things [NOT about me] that are very, very roadblocky indeed).
Erin, I read the essay and I didn't think it was mean spirited. You didn't say anything about her, personally, and ended on a positive note.
It could be she's offended that her leaving tons of junk for someone else to deal with can make her look bad, but actually - 99.99% of the people who read that won't know her or care.
Yes, she is a drama llama. I don't think that the essay was mean spirited but she doesn't seem to have it in her to do anything other than take it in the wrongest way.
{{smonster}} Glad you got it over with. Sorry about the cry/barf feeling. Here's to the weekend?
Erin, I thought it was a great essay, but yeah, definite drama llama. But like others have said above, I'm not surprised that she has feelings about her leftover detritus and the memories of her failed marriage, but she really should have kept her mouth shut about it. But from what you've said before, that didn't seem likely. Sorry.