It's not like someone is giving you the house. It's your money. No sense investing in something that's bad for you.
You two carried me through that war. Now I need you to carry me just a little bit further. If you can.
Tracy ,'The Message'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
§ ita § - Jan 19, 2012 5:53:43 pm PST #5933 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Ginger - Jan 19, 2012 6:30:34 pm PST #5934 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
We relaxed the criteria a little to include split level entry.
If it were me, I'd stick with a ranch. You have to go up and down stairs all the time in a split level. My knees would revolt. It's not your job to make the realtor happy, and if he/she doesn't come up with what you need, you can fire her.
sj - Jan 19, 2012 6:46:08 pm PST #5935 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
If it were me, I'd stick with a ranch. You have to go up and down stairs all the time in a split level. My knees would revolt. It's not your job to make the realtor happy, and if he/she doesn't come up with what you need, you can fire her.
The idea is to find a split level where everything I need is on the first floor: all the bedrooms, the bathroom, the kitchen, the living room, and the laundry. While downstairs, is an extra room for entertaining, TCG's office, and storage. So, other than going in and out of the house, I wouldn't have to do the stairs at all.
Liese S. - Jan 19, 2012 6:52:53 pm PST #5936 of 30001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
It's a reasonable idea, sj, but it would be ideal to find something where the entire house is accessible to you. It may be a longer search, but I really believe it will be worthwhile to find something that works entirely for you.
sj - Jan 19, 2012 6:59:21 pm PST #5937 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
It's a reasonable idea, sj, but it would be ideal to find something where the entire house is accessible to you. It may be a longer search, but I really believe it will be worthwhile to find something that works entirely for you.
I figure I'm at least compromising by looking at other houses. It doesn't mean I have to agree to anything I'm not comfortable with; I'm fairly stubborn, so that's not going to happen. And we were already looking at ranches with finished basements so that TCG could have an office downstairs, so it's really not much different. Both TCG and I start to get nervous when there is nothing new to look at, so this keeps us moving and active.
Maria - Jan 19, 2012 7:10:46 pm PST #5938 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
sj, don't settle. You shouldn't buy a house you can only regularly enjoy a part of. I'm an able person for the most part, and there are days when I rue the fact that we bought a three level townhouse. The laundry room is in the basement while the master bedroom is on the top level. The steps kill me sometimes.
sj - Jan 19, 2012 7:16:16 pm PST #5939 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
You shouldn't buy a house you can only regularly enjoy a part of.
Whether we end up with a split level where everything I need is on the main floor or a ranch with a finished basement where everything I need is on the main floor, I don't really see the difference. The main problems for me are having laundry on the main level and easy access in and out to my car (and even some of the ranches were iffy on this part), so those are the two main things I am focused on right now.
§ ita § - Jan 19, 2012 7:18:51 pm PST #5940 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
It would seen unwise to buy a house you couldn't rely on getting yourself in and out of. Parts of the house you don't use, sure, but the entrance? Then again, moving out of where you live now might be enough of an upgrade, that you don't need *everything*.
Cass - Jan 19, 2012 7:19:14 pm PST #5941 of 30001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Be stubborn. It's a good thing when buying a home. Heck, I think it's a good thing when choosing a home for any length of time or ownership vs rental level. You will live there, it's important.
so those are the two main things I am focused on right now.
Excellent plan.
sj - Jan 19, 2012 7:27:53 pm PST #5942 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
It would seen unwise to buy a house you couldn't rely on getting yourself in and out of. Parts of the house you don't use, sure, but the entrance? Then again, moving out of where you live now might be enough of an upgrade, that you don't need *everything*.
I didn't mean to imply that I would, just that I already rejected some ranches outright because they would be difficult for me to get in and out of. The bottom line is I can go up and down stairs when I have to, it just hurts a heck of a lot so I plan to avoid having to do more than a few of them each day. I go up three stairs right now to get into my apartment, so if I have to go up six to get to the main level of the house, that's doable. If I have to be carrying large loads of laundry up and down a full flight of stairs on a regular basis, that's not doable. Does that make sense?
ETA: Also, yes getting the hell out of this apartment is a huge priority, but we're trying not to let it affect our decision making.