I had a good relationship with both, but there's no doubt I was my mommy's little girl. We were very sympatico. I used to spend hours in the kitchen with her while she cooked.

As for my kids, I haven't seen signs of a clear preference in either of them. I tend to be the one who is most needed in times of distress, but that also means I'm the one who gets the brunt of their anger as well. I should ask my husband if he sees any favortism.

I used to be closer to my dad, but that was when I was an adolescent and he is pretty much emotionally halted at that age. now I am closer to my mother. I like her more, that's for sure. But I try to maintain a decent distance from them both because of Teh Crazy. It doesn't work, but I try.

They both exhaust me.

Really, the bitterness is healthy! Ask my therapist.

I have a good relationship with both my parents but I'm closer to my Mom. That means that when I connect with my Dad on something it feels really special.

This is me, too.

Me three! My Dad and I were really close until I hit puberty. He didn't know what to do with a teen girl, which is sad, really. I still miss that relationship.

I was very close to my dad, not so much with my mom. We're just different people, and my dad I were so much alike. We're really not closer since my dad died, we just spend more time together out of necessity.

I was always closer to my mother growing up and even as an adult well into my 40s. There was always affection between my father and myself, but he's a hypercritical person, so being around him wasn't always comfortable. That has changed a lot since my mother passed away. Things I wouldn't have tried to talk to my father about are now fairly frequent topics of conversation and the criticism has totally dropped off the radar. I'm sorry it had to wait until mom was gone for us to get to that point, but I cherish it all the more for the fact I finally have it.

For Shir, a secret chocolate link to lure her to Dallas: [link]

That's nice, but I'm more like that, baby.

Close to both parents, here, but more in a "make sure they know I'm alright at all times" way. Closer to my dad, and one of the things that pisses me off is that he can read me so well, and still don't understand why I can be frustrated with him. As for my mom, the more I grow up, the more I appreciate her and thinks she's a super woman.

I've always been closer to my mom than to my dad. Yes, even despite the batshittery. It's extremely complex and has put many mental health professionals' children through Ivy League colleges.

My dad and I are too alike to be close in a talky-meat kind of way - our phone conversations are comically monosyllabic. So I'd say I'm close to both of my parents in different ways.

Conversations like this (which I very much enjoy reading) are so weird to me. I am so happy for those of you with parents...and so overjoyed when I hear of healthy relationships. Gives me hope for if I ever have kids (which is looking more and more doubtful).

I guess I am a little wistful at the notion of a relationship with a parent, but just a little. It's true that if you've never known something, you don't know what you're missing. I get glimpses through my friends and it looks like a neat world to live in!

I was always closer to Daddy than Mother. The titles alone say that. Daddy died in 1983, when I was a senior in college. If he'd lived longer, I may have stayed in touch with my blood family more.

While my sister were going to clothes and fabric stores with Mother, I was going to the hardware store with Daddy and watching trains and hanging over fenders. And I was the one who had my hair tied up in bows and dressed in frilly stuff.