I am a large, semi-muscular man. I can take it. Don't hide behind Mal 'cause you know he'll shoot it down for you. Tell me.

Wash ,'War Stories'


Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Hil R. - Aug 10, 2009 7:43:57 pm PDT #19312 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

Hil, can you start forwarding him links to articles that you think he should read so that he gets that you're reading them?

I'm not really sure how to phrase stuff like that. Also, I'm pretty sure that he doesn't read my emails, at least not unless they're about something that he's also working on at the moment.


beth b - Aug 10, 2009 7:47:42 pm PDT #19313 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!

even if he doesn't read the0 , you'll have a record


StuntHusband - Aug 10, 2009 8:00:11 pm PDT #19314 of 30000
Electromagnetic candy! - Stark

Why I think was very successful.


Scrappy - Aug 10, 2009 8:08:33 pm PDT #19315 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

Hil, I think with this guy, you just have to play the game his way. When he makes a complaint, isntead of thinking about how you are already doing whjat he is asking for (since he is clearly not seeing it), say something like "How would you like me to share my article reading with you? I can send you links to relevant work."


aurelia - Aug 10, 2009 8:25:05 pm PDT #19316 of 30000
All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story. Tell me a story.

Yet again, Scrappy is wise.


Hil R. - Aug 10, 2009 8:42:26 pm PDT #19317 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

I can try that, Scrappy.


Shir - Aug 10, 2009 10:03:40 pm PDT #19318 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

Dear God, I created the Buffista Translation Party monster.

Steph, that was a lovely story.

sj, health~ma.

And Hil, here's my 2 cents. Mind that it could be that I read the situation differently due to my own human problems:
Clearly your advisor wants you to be more dependant on him, and is ignoring that you prefer face most things in your way, which isn't his way.

So fake girly enthusiasm when he's around and come to him to a bunch of "OMG? Have you seen this?" whenever thinking "Hemm. Might be cool, in an alternative universe", and "You GOTTA see this NOW" whenever thinking "this might make a good point. Someday. Let's file it in the Would Make a Good Point Someday file".

Or, listen to Scrappy, since she is wise and I'm sort-of in the same situation with job interviews. My CV are impressive for my age, but since I'm sticking with the Dead Honesty policy even when it screws me a little bit, and since I know my thoughts can be scary to others, I usually show little enthusiasm in job interviews, even when I'm excited about the job. I have no idea what to say that would sound sane or normal, and end up hesitant.

I really need to work about it. Advices would be very appreciated.

And good luck to you with your advisor.


omnis_audis - Aug 10, 2009 10:07:54 pm PDT #19319 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir

I think it's very fitting that Shir, whose primary language is not English, got us so hooked on translation party.


Shir - Aug 10, 2009 10:15:46 pm PDT #19320 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

It's only fair that you'll get some of the feeling about how direct Hebrew-to-English might sound like.

Also, since I know Nilly doesn't read here, and I don't want to post it in Natter, where she might read, or Beep Me:

As you know, in about a month Nilly's getting married. If there is anything you might wanna give to her on the day without her to know, or shamelessly surprise her during the ceremony, email me and we'll try to work it out.


Shir - Aug 10, 2009 10:16:50 pm PDT #19321 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

Oh, and I already got her approval to take gazzilions of pictures.