Cindy, my thoughts are with your family.

JavaChick - i meant to write back - there will be foamy sprog clothes from here to the next century I bet - buffistae are not only fashionable, we buy stuff that lasts. I haz this trait from my cousin.

Sorry about your loss Cindy.

I don't know Omnis, if you feel you can openly and comfortably talk about your opinions and beliefs with her maybe it can be okay. If you find yourself biting your tongue and/or being uncomfortable, then it's no good.

{{{Cindy}}}

Same here. Ultimately, I sit with the "there's a difference between 'stupid think I did when I was 18' and 'here's how I gamed the system for fun and profit'" crowd. But my college indiscretions, pretty much by definition, all happened more than 20 years ago.

Eh. Even that, I find myself sitting with Steph. Sure, I did things I would never do today, but it doesn't mean I don't sometimes still get a laugh out of them recounting the tales.

Sure, I did things I would never do today, but it doesn't mean I don't sometimes still get a laugh out of them recounting the tales.

Like that time I slept with the neocon.

I wonder if it should worry me that my bank sent me *someone else's statements*. Particularly if it means that person has mine.

Keeping me on hold to their customer service department for half an hour isn't doing them any favours, either.

I hate finances so sodding much. I have to keep financial records and send in returns for the money I get to pay my personal care assistants. While that's a perfectly reasonable thing to ask a person to do, it makes me entirely crazy. I ended up on the verge of screaming at today's assistant, who was trying to help me with the returns (not in a way that helped with the anxiety). I managed to get her to leave before I actually started screaming, which is good 'cause I don't want to be that employer.

Barb gets name-checked in this Wired article.

Barb gets name-checked in this Wired article.

And picture-checked! Cool!

Go Barb! Go Barb!

It is likely that many of us would rather not be judged on the folly of youth. I have done seriously inappropriate things and believe I have learned from past mistakes.

The cheating thing would bother me, because I do think it's an integrity issue, but it would particularly bother me if she was telling this story as "Wasn't this great" versus "I did stuff in college that I regret."

Of course, one of my favorite quotes is the one often repeated at Vanderbilt. Madison Sarratt, the long-time and beloved dean of students, said this before exams when he was a math professor:

Today I am going to give you two examinations, one in trigonometry and one in honesty. I hope you will pass them both, but if you must fail one, let it be trigonometry, for there are many good men in this world today who cannot pass an examination in trigonometry, but there are no good men in this world who cannot pass an examination in honesty.

Her political views would make my head explode.

O_A, you're a cool guy with an interesting job. There must be a way for you to find the right person. Have you tried to find ways to meet the volunteers? Maybe you could offer to do some kind of behind-the-scenes tour.