Spike ,'The Killer In Me'
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
I never knew how to deal with the "OK, what is he really expecting, here?" question.
Nothing. Well, in my case, anyway. For every woman I've slept with, the first time we slept together it was initiated by the woman, and it was always a surprise to me.
Not sure what that means.
I had very little social conditioning in either recognizing cues or sending the right ones.
This right here is why the idea of trying to meet people (dating-wise) scares the liver out of me.
I had very little social conditioning in either recognizing cues or sending the right ones.Ditto. Is there a class? Ya know, it would really help with the self confidence thing too, which I lack, in a serious way!
As soon as I Rip Off That Bandaid, of course.:: confused :: so? Um? soon to be single then??
I haven't had a date in ages but it's not like I'm going to start now. "Hi, I'm unemployed! Wanna go for coffee?"Sure.
I realize now, I've had a number of first dates. And they all really sucked. I've had a number of "I'm wanting this to be a date, oh shit, you didn't catch that vibe, right, I'm not sure how to send that vibe, oh crap this is awkward" dinners. But not that many relationships. And all with psycho's in one way or another.
ND, but you are way more self-confident than ... well, me and practically anyone I knowYa, now that you have the most awesomist woman in the world, I'm wondering if you can bottle some of that self confidence.
Ya, still nervous about Sunday. Yup. Guess that means I'm human, right?
it would really help with the self confidence thing too, which I lack, in a serious way!
You're a good kisser, if that helps!
:: blush ::
You're a good kisser, if that helps!
Oh my! Love post F2F glimpses.
My dating history is sort of all over the place. Had one BF in high school, had NOTHING at all going in college until the very end and that was mostly fueled by wild drunken debauchery. Chilled for a while after that, had the unhealthy relationship for like 4 years, and had some stuff on the side (also not healthy) and then hooked up with Tom like 7.5 years ago. And that's been awesome relationship- and sex- wise.
I had some Capital-I Issues, but I think I'm mostly better now...
I kinda miss the days of my wild drunken debauchery. It was fun! At least I was getting laid very regularly. I can do without the hangovers and the vomiting.
Omnis, dude. You ARE foamy. Specially in a tux. Come Sunday, even if you are wearing jeans and a clean shirt, try to feel the tux vibes. Feel the foam. See the foam. Be the foam. You can do this. You are the foam.
I think I still believe anybody must have a car, a job and a home if I'm going to date them.
The thing about unemployment is, it happens to plenty of people who are generally hard-working, reasonably prudent, skilled-at-life individuals. In my book, it says more about a person's character how they respond to unemployment than it does that they are unemployed. Unemployed plus brushing up on new skills, plus actually searching for a new job, plus catching up on projects at home equals pretty damn good character - and that kind of character is pretty easy to see.
I am back from dinner.
And quite possibly drunk.
Margaritas goooooooooooood.
Margaritas with Cointreau, very, very goooooooooood.
I can't believe my luck. the cats were racing around the chair and caught the headset wire and pulled it hard, something must have come loose because now the base light won't coem on and it doesn't work. This will be my third headset to be destroyed in about 12 months. I'm so frustrated right now I could scream.
Dating history -- one boyfriend when I was 14. Then nothing until I graduated from high school.I dated a guy for 3 years (I think it was three), we had a lot in common but things not in common. We broke up, I was friends with a guy and started dating him. I essentially was dumped for a lesbian...well she was needy and he needed to be needed. Then I threw myself at random guys and generally had mania induced bad judgement. Then nothing for a long time. Then SLNRLBF.