Bunch of wanna blessed-bes. Nowadays every girl with a henna tattoo and a spice rack thinks she's a sister to the dark ones.

Willow ,'Bring On The Night'


Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


beth b - Jul 10, 2009 2:12:22 pm PDT #16206 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!

I did date. But I got say that the giddy stage , wasn't giddy. It was too fraught. And not much with the wild sex. Because sex is better if I know someone well.

I think dating would be very different now, but I really have no desire to experience it.

And the want sex flag would be good, esp. if the answer flag was something like -- not today , but maybe next week ( esp in the situation Hil is talking about )


erikaj - Jul 10, 2009 2:17:56 pm PDT #16207 of 30000
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-

oh, yeah, that is great, Java.


Laga - Jul 10, 2009 2:30:03 pm PDT #16208 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.

One time I found some blank white magnets. I drew a chessboard on one and made two more into a king and a queen. If I was interested in sex, I put the queen on the board. You get the idea. It worked pretty well.


Polter-Cow - Jul 10, 2009 2:40:05 pm PDT #16209 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!

That must have been one roomy refrigerator.


Zenkitty - Jul 10, 2009 3:13:40 pm PDT #16210 of 30000
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.

Laga, that's neat! I would do that in a comfortable relationship, to be coy.

I never knew how to deal with the "OK, what is he really expecting, here?" question. I'm in awe of people who can navigate those waters without capsizing. I had very little social conditioning in either recognizing cues or sending the right ones. I'm still not real good at it. It's gotten me into trouble more than once.


tommyrot - Jul 10, 2009 3:18:12 pm PDT #16211 of 30000
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.

I never knew how to deal with the "OK, what is he really expecting, here?" question.

Nothing. Well, in my case, anyway. For every woman I've slept with, the first time we slept together it was initiated by the woman, and it was always a surprise to me.

Not sure what that means.


Anne W. - Jul 10, 2009 3:19:16 pm PDT #16212 of 30000
The lost sheep grow teeth, forsake their lambs, and lie with the lions.

I had very little social conditioning in either recognizing cues or sending the right ones.

This right here is why the idea of trying to meet people (dating-wise) scares the liver out of me.


omnis_audis - Jul 10, 2009 3:32:07 pm PDT #16213 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir

I had very little social conditioning in either recognizing cues or sending the right ones.
Ditto. Is there a class? Ya know, it would really help with the self confidence thing too, which I lack, in a serious way!

As soon as I Rip Off That Bandaid, of course.
:: confused :: so? Um? soon to be single then??

I haven't had a date in ages but it's not like I'm going to start now. "Hi, I'm unemployed! Wanna go for coffee?"
Sure.

I realize now, I've had a number of first dates. And they all really sucked. I've had a number of "I'm wanting this to be a date, oh shit, you didn't catch that vibe, right, I'm not sure how to send that vibe, oh crap this is awkward" dinners. But not that many relationships. And all with psycho's in one way or another.

ND, but you are way more self-confident than ... well, me and practically anyone I know
Ya, now that you have the most awesomist woman in the world, I'm wondering if you can bottle some of that self confidence.

Ya, still nervous about Sunday. Yup. Guess that means I'm human, right?


Zenkitty - Jul 10, 2009 3:37:48 pm PDT #16214 of 30000
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.

it would really help with the self confidence thing too, which I lack, in a serious way!

You're a good kisser, if that helps!


omnis_audis - Jul 10, 2009 4:22:02 pm PDT #16215 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir

:: blush ::