ND, but you are way more self-confident than ... well, me and practically anyone I know. Self-confidence is a prerequisite to enjoying dating.

Laga, unemployed wouldn't put you out of my dating pool. It's a temporary situation, out of your hands - hardly a defining characteristic. Once upon a better time, a person who didn't have a job might have been iffy, but these days? Not so much.

I just recently found out that a good friend of mine back in high school is gay, always has been. Interesting, but it didn't really strike me as a big deal. Wouldn't have guessed it, but it wasn't all that surprising either.

Interesting, but it didn't really strike me as a big deal.

Ideal reaction. Thanks. :)

For me singledom was mostly heartbreak and rejection with very little sex, while relationship=happiness and lots of sex. I never want to date again. Ever.

She is just way too much of a partner in crime along with being dead sexy and everything else I could ask for, hence the staying with her and now getting married.

Well, duh.

I haven't had a date in ages but it's not like I'm going to start now. "Hi, I'm unemployed! Wanna go for coffee?"

I would think that this is the perfect time for other people to buy you coffee.

Apparently at least some people from High School assume I'm gay. Facebook has been interesting.

re-evaluate every conversation we'd ever had to parse it for hidden come-ons from me.

I still treasure on HS friend's coming out story. Another friend--straight male--was visiting him in college. Gay friend says, oh by the way, I only have the one bed, you can share it with me or sleep on the floor. Friend opts to share. Well in that case I should probably tell you I'm gay, just in case that makes you change your mind.

ND, but you are way more self-confident than ... well, me and practically anyone I know.

Which just sounds so odd to me. I mean I know that now I have the self confidence, but boy do I remember not having it. You are right though, I had a hard time dating in early on due to the lack of confidence thing.

Well in that case I should probably tell you I'm gay, just in case that makes you change your mind.

THIS

Apparently at least some people from High School assume I'm gay. Facebook has been interesting.

I had one of those Interesting Conversations with someone I reconnected with on FB.

Apparently, word had got out (through someone I don't remember coming out to AT ALL?) about me having dated women, and a binary reaction was expected. She was shocked to discover I was with a man. (I mean, sometimes, so am *I* until I remember that dating women when you're a bi woman is often frustrating and fraught, and narrows the dating pool SO MUCH. Not shockingly, I nodded along like WHOA to a recent article on the subject.)