Flat tire? Cat puking up blood? Just offering good excuses here. In your shoes I'd have a hard time feeling confident of the doctor, and it's just not worth the stress. GC, it just sucks.
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WindSparrow - Jun 24, 2009 9:47:40 pm PDT #13927 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Calli - Jun 25, 2009 2:07:29 am PDT #13928 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
If a doctor was going to be involved in the care of my ladybits, I might be uncomfortable knowing he hates what I do with them. If you decide to look elsewhere, I hope you can find a good OB/GYN soon, GC.
brenda m - Jun 25, 2009 2:19:27 am PDT #13929 of 30000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
Ugh. I don't know that I could get comfortable with that situation. And while it may be a lack of exposure (though - $17 grand? I take leave to doubt), I'm not sure that right now is the time to be putting on your Ambassador for Teh Gay hat.
Unless it is. Do what feels right. But I wouldn't feel any obligation to stick with this guy.
sj - Jun 25, 2009 2:46:48 am PDT #13930 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Unless it is. Do what feels right. But I wouldn't feel any obligation to stick with this guy.
What brenda said. Sorry you have to be finding this out at the last minute.
Jessica - Jun 25, 2009 3:27:19 am PDT #13931 of 30000
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
I'm with Trudy on this one - delaying the checkup another couple of weeks carries no real risk, and you shouldn't have to see an OB you don't trust.
OTOH, if you accidentally slipped out of the stirrups and kicked him in the face, no jury would convict a pregnant woman - everyone knows those hormones make you crazy!
Barb - Jun 25, 2009 3:36:33 am PDT #13932 of 30000
“Not dead yet!”
OTOH, if you accidentally slipped out of the stirrups and kicked him in the face, no jury would convict a pregnant woman - everyone knows those hormones make you crazy!
Jessica makes a grand, grand point.
Aims - Jun 25, 2009 4:19:40 am PDT #13933 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Jessica made about 17 grand worth of points right there.
Glamcookie - Jun 25, 2009 4:21:24 am PDT #13934 of 30000
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
Thanks, guys. We've decided to go ahead with the appointment. This guy was recommended by both our fertility doctor and our OB (this tool will not be my regular OB - I will see him one time only for the screening). If we get bad news, I will ask my regular OB to recommend someone else for a second opinion. It still totally sucks and depending on how we're treated, I will be letting my fertility doctor and OB know about my concerns. Here's hoping he's just a shithead and not an evil fuck.
sj - Jun 25, 2009 4:31:21 am PDT #13935 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Thanks, guys. We've decided to go ahead with the appointment. This guy was recommended by both our fertility doctor and our OB (this tool will not be my regular OB - I will see him one time only for the screening). If we get bad news, I will ask my regular OB to recommend someone else for a second opinion. It still totally sucks and depending on how we're treated, I will be letting my fertility doctor and OB know about my concerns. Here's hoping he's just a shithead and not an evil fuck.
I didn't realize this wasn't going to be your regular OB. Good luck with the appointment, and I third Jessica's point.
JZ - Jun 25, 2009 4:40:37 am PDT #13936 of 30000
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
Glam, I would let them know anyway. Even if he treats you well, he's still taking the money of couples like you (or their insurance payouts, anyhow) and using them to fund your oppression. I don't think there's anything wrong with saying to your regular OB and fertility doc (maybe in a while, after you get the results and after you're not actively upset), "I understand he's very gifted and I personally was treated well during this consult, but this remains a concern to me; even if you continue to refer your straight patients to him, you may want to consider someone else for couples like DW and me. We found this out accidentally, through a simple online search for his address, so it's info that's out there, can easily be stumbled on by a patient, and can cause more upset and more doubts at an already fraught time."
Er, not to write a script for you or anything. But none of the medical folks I know would react at all badly to something like that, and none of them want to send their patients into situations where they know those patients are likely to feel an extra layer of discomfort on top of all the scariness of a risk-evaluation consult.
Or, there's Jessica's idea. Though, personally, I'd aim lower down.