I open/hold the door for everyone, regardless of gender or abledness, so I hope it's okay!
I think that's just polite.
Sooner or later, you're gonna want it. And the second — the second — that happens, you know I'll be there. I'll slip in, have myself a real good day.
Spike ,'Conversations with Dead People'
Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
lisah - Jun 23, 2009 7:57:15 am PDT #13614 of 30000
Punishingly Intricate
billytea - Jun 23, 2009 7:58:03 am PDT #13615 of 30000
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.
My suggestion would be Charles Darwin.
juliana - Jun 23, 2009 8:02:19 am PDT #13616 of 30000
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…
Thespis.
Sean K - Jun 23, 2009 8:06:11 am PDT #13617 of 30000
You can't leave me to my own devices; my devices are Nap and Eat. -Zenkitty
Thespis.
HEARTING juliana right now.
Also,
HAPPY TEPPY DAY!
Scrappy - Jun 23, 2009 8:07:51 am PDT #13618 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Happy birthday, Teppy! Hope your day is as fabulous as you are....if such a thing is even possible!
omnis_audis - Jun 23, 2009 8:32:58 am PDT #13619 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
Vortex, some folks are just frosty. It sounds like your approach is good. As mentioned, ask the person not their traveling companion. If there is a group, and you sense help is needed, ask in the plural to all, "can I help y'all with something". If it looks to be a turtleback situation, ask what they need to stand up. For instance, if I slip/fall on ice, wax floor, etc, getting up is difficult because I can't plant the crutch. So often it's just "ya, your foot there so the crutch doesn't slip would be great!". As a kid, I can't tell you how many times my shoulders/arms were ripped out of sockets by folks trying to help me up. It's not just the altitude, it's also about where the center of gravity is.
Cashmere - Jun 23, 2009 8:40:01 am PDT #13620 of 30000
Now tagless for your comfort.
I had a blind student in one of my English classes in college. One day, I saw her walking away from our building with her guide dog. I thought she might be ditching, but just in case, I ran up to ask her if she was going to class. Turns out her dog got turned around and she didn't know she was going in the wrong direction.
I was glad I asked even though I felt sort of silly--she got around so well. She was pretty happy, too, because we had a test that day.
It's still sometimes to reach out if you're unsure.
Glamcookie - Jun 23, 2009 8:47:08 am PDT #13621 of 30000
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
I'm a help-offerer but I would never assume to help without discussing it with the person. I try not to take frostiness to heart.
I look pretty pregnant today. Is that normal for almost 13 weeks? Also, I passed my glucose test! So happy as I was really worried about it for some reason. Next PG escapade: 1st trimester screening on Thursday. Eek.
erikaj - Jun 23, 2009 8:48:42 am PDT #13622 of 30000
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-
Yes, definitely ask. Some people are going to get put out anyway because there is a certain kind of person who thinks being a strong person with a disability makes you Klingon or something...Do It Yourself Or Die. I don't do that anymore. But Hil is right...it's too hard for relative strangers to anticipate stuff.
Aims - Jun 23, 2009 8:51:11 am PDT #13623 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
I just fan-girled all over a writer for Sports Night and West Wing.