Vortex, some folks are just frosty. It sounds like your approach is good. As mentioned, ask the person not their traveling companion. If there is a group, and you sense help is needed, ask in the plural to all, "can I help y'all with something". If it looks to be a turtleback situation, ask what they need to stand up. For instance, if I slip/fall on ice, wax floor, etc, getting up is difficult because I can't plant the crutch. So often it's just "ya, your foot there so the crutch doesn't slip would be great!". As a kid, I can't tell you how many times my shoulders/arms were ripped out of sockets by folks trying to help me up. It's not just the altitude, it's also about where the center of gravity is.
Handsome brooding vampire guy has to swoop in all sensitive mouth and overhanging forehead. How 'bout leaving some scraps for the homely-looking fellows who don't turn evil when they get some?
Doyle ,'Life of the Party'
Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
omnis_audis - Jun 23, 2009 8:32:58 am PDT #13619 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
Cashmere - Jun 23, 2009 8:40:01 am PDT #13620 of 30000
Now tagless for your comfort.
I had a blind student in one of my English classes in college. One day, I saw her walking away from our building with her guide dog. I thought she might be ditching, but just in case, I ran up to ask her if she was going to class. Turns out her dog got turned around and she didn't know she was going in the wrong direction.
I was glad I asked even though I felt sort of silly--she got around so well. She was pretty happy, too, because we had a test that day.
It's still sometimes to reach out if you're unsure.
Glamcookie - Jun 23, 2009 8:47:08 am PDT #13621 of 30000
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
I'm a help-offerer but I would never assume to help without discussing it with the person. I try not to take frostiness to heart.
I look pretty pregnant today. Is that normal for almost 13 weeks? Also, I passed my glucose test! So happy as I was really worried about it for some reason. Next PG escapade: 1st trimester screening on Thursday. Eek.
erikaj - Jun 23, 2009 8:48:42 am PDT #13622 of 30000
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-
Yes, definitely ask. Some people are going to get put out anyway because there is a certain kind of person who thinks being a strong person with a disability makes you Klingon or something...Do It Yourself Or Die. I don't do that anymore. But Hil is right...it's too hard for relative strangers to anticipate stuff.
Aims - Jun 23, 2009 8:51:11 am PDT #13623 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
I just fan-girled all over a writer for Sports Night and West Wing.
erikaj - Jun 23, 2009 8:52:41 am PDT #13624 of 30000
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-
Don't feel bad...we like it, I think. Tep, have an awesome birthday!
beekaytee - Jun 23, 2009 8:52:45 am PDT #13625 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant
Yay glucose test pass, GC!
One of my clients is newly pregnant and I've been amazed how quickly it 'showed', in more ways than belly.
Atropa - Jun 23, 2009 8:54:11 am PDT #13626 of 30000
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, TEPPY!
Aims - Jun 23, 2009 8:55:38 am PDT #13627 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TEPPY!!
erikaj - Jun 23, 2009 9:00:39 am PDT #13628 of 30000
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-
Which writer, Aims? Was it Neil Gaiman? Cause people do fangirl him a lot. Or my fake tagline name-check, Mr. Chabon.