{{{Seska}}} You've gotten wise advice about coping, so I'm just going to point and nod, especially to where Teppy said it was everyone's loss but especially the Girl's family's loss in not getting to know your goodness.
And Burrell, that's utterly mindboggling. Granted, I've only met your husband once, but he struck me as so thoroughly charming and engaging (and utterly happy to be married to you and out and about on a brunch date with you) that I literally cannot imagine anyone deciding to hate him. And that was even before he and you had your two awesome children.
Other people's families are...puzzling.