Seska, I think it's your Girl who has to set the behavior boundaries with her family, not you. She has to tell them she's not listening when they abuse you, she has to say she's not attending family events without the family she's made, etc. It's going to be really hard on her, and she's going to have to tell them about eleventyhundred times, but she's the one who is situated to do so, not you.

This. It's a lousy, lousy situation, but if her family is already unfavorably disposed towards you, there's nothing else *you* can to do make them want to get to know you. It's crappy, and I hate it for both of you -- for *all* of you, really, including her family, because it's a huge loss for them to not get to know you.

Seska, I'm so sorry. That's an awful position for you to be in, though I agree with everyone else that there's probably nothing else you can do beyond provide moral support for your girl. We all have to deal with our own families, in the end, even when they do accept our partners. I hope for both of you that they come to their senses, though. Many hugs.

In petty meme news, I had the most horrible night of anxiety dreams/nightmares I have had in a long time. I don't pick up my new nightguard until next week, and apparently I was clenching my teeth so hard that I've given myself a killer head/jaw ache. Oh, and I woke up convinced that Drew doesn't really love me and the wedding was off and I left a class completely alone while they were taking a test because I found this all out in the middle of the school day. @@ Seriously, brain??

Aah!! I'm sorry, Kristin. {{Kristin}} I hate dreams like that.

I dreamed of the F2F, actually. I sat next to someone named Selina. Is Catwoman a Buffista?

Well, she's snarky enough to be one, eh?

In petty meme news, I had the most horrible night of anxiety dreams/nightmares I have had in a long time. I don't pick up my new nightguard until next week, and apparently I was clenching my teeth so hard that I've given myself a killer head/jaw ache. Oh, and I woke up convinced that Drew doesn't really love me and the wedding was off and I left a class completely alone while they were taking a test because I found this all out in the middle of the school day. @@ Seriously, brain??

Doubly obnoxious, because you weren't having a bad night last night (that I could tell).

Nope, that's what's been so weird. I've been going through a patch of horrible dreams for the past couple of weeks when things have actually been going well and I've been in a good place. No idea why my brain hates me.

Nope, that's what's been so weird. I've been going through a patch of horrible dreams fir the past couple of weeks when things have actually been going well and I've been in a god place. No idea why my brain hates me.

FWIW, I had a bunch of dreams like that right after TCG and I were engaged. Brains are weird.

I've been going through a patch of horrible dreams fir the past couple of weeks when things have actually been going well and I've been in a god place. No idea why my brain hates me.

Maybe your brain feels it's in a safe place and can process all the stresses you've recently gone through.

Good luck to you both, Seska. I've been where your Girl is. It's hard as hell, for both partners. I ended up not speaking to the majority of my family for 12 years.

(I gave them a quadruple whammy, though. I was living in multiple sin with a girl and a black guy at the same time, while working as a stripper. This, shortly after I graduated from an ivy league college. My mom had a total prayer meltdown when I told her.)

(I gave them a quadruple whammy, though. I was living in multiple sin with a girl and a black guy at the same time, while working as a stripper. This, shortly after I graduated from an ivy league college. My mom had a total prayer meltdown when I told her.)

I couldn't SELL that as a novel. Editors would reject it as too unbelievable.