I think Vegemite would be too strong, though it is roughly the same flavor as the nutritional yeast, just way stronger. I don't have any soy cheese on hand -- most of the regular supermarket brands are pretty bad, and the good brands are both expensive and only available at special stores. If I'd thought of it earlier, I might have tried cutting it with some melted margarine.

I have no idea why I'm making all this stuff now. Next weekend, I'm going to a vegan meetup at a soul food restaurant that's supposed to have the best vegan mac and cheese ever.

because it was on your mind, Hil.

I liked the blue pair best.

and Andy Cat ( Dh has a brother named Andy with similar colored hair, so the cat must be andy cat) did wake me up at quarter to 4 to tell me everything was different and to show me the whole house again -- just in case. He then walked on us for the next hour. Thank goodness he is not a heavy cat.

Took it out of the oven. Still smells like mustard. Need to let it sit for a while before tasting it.

If it stays mustardy-tasting I'd mix or serve it with greens. They can often handle the mustard.

Just tasted it. It tastes good, since I do like mustard, but it's definitely mac and mustard rather than mac and cheese. Next time, way less mustard. Also, more margarine and maybe a bit of paprika.

I skipped tons of posts. Had no interwebs this weekend.

First, Suzi, I'm very sorry for your loss. ~mas to you and the family.

Also, some ~ma to erin_o, and to Hil who have to face her mother's questions. Shalom Bayis is for the both of you, and smart Jewish ladies do no let their religion to step all over them, nor to stress them into unreasonable places. One of my favorite Nilly Sayings is "you didn't do X yet because it wasn't the right time for X to happen for you. That's all. Trust yourself and your faith".

More to come.

Aw, my mom is right...Nilly is the nicest person on the planet.ETA: As you can tell from the new tag, I fall short a lot. Even if it is just a joke(funnier still if you know what I looked like in '94, but I digress. Two words, though. Fashion. Victim.)

Now. Smart Bitches, I do need your advice.

I don't know if you remember the story about my friend, who I bitched about few weeks ago. The one who needs me, pretty much, while I don't need her at all. She's acting like a child about it - she's, the one who's 10 years older than I.

(Edit: and I mostly mean that she keeps talking with me when I specifically tell her I can't talk with her. And I'm too polite to hung up on friends).

But I like her. And she is in pain, I have no doubt about it. She's just driving me mental. I told her I don't feel comfortable about the whole thing, and she replied with "but you know you're really helping me, right?", and continued storming off with gazillion other questions that will send me to the asylum. And unfortunately, due to her lack of money she stopped seeing her psychologist.

She needs help. I can help her, but the whole thing is making me feel very uncomfortable. I feel guilty leaving her almost on her own on this.

How do I cut this?

Also. I might do something crazy, that might turn out wonderful for me, and apply to HUJI School of History. Where people actually want to study, and cow-people don't look at me as weirdo for actually - God forbid - reading the articles for class.

Oh, and in my previous post, I forgot to congratulate fellow Buffistas on their academic achievements (and yes. Getting out of bed to class is an academic achievement, too!). Also, ~mas to those who need them.

Now, I leave you with this. The only song I know of with negative time durance (-0:34, IIRC). I have the cassette - it's an Israeli sci-fi album, which I enjoy tremendously).

I don't know the answer about your friend, because the bottom line is you are helping her at the expense of your own mental health and ability to get work done you need to get done. She obviously will push as hard as she can to have you continue to help at that cost to you. So basically the question is how strong your survival instincts are. You set limits or you don't. It doesn't sound like she is going to honor limits: she will walk right over any lines you draw if you let her, push as hard as she can against any lines you don't let her cross. So basically that leaves it your decision how much damage you let her do to you in order to help her. So no advice. Once you decide on that tradeoff, there are lots of wise people on this list who can help you figure out how to enforce. But first you have to decide how much are willing to endanger your own survival to meet her needs. If the situation were slightly more dramatic, would take a bullet for her? If not, that might be a guide for this admittedly less extreme situation.