Sean, your situations sucks, especially since when you do have work, you are so, so busy. I had this idea that you could maybe ask everyone you know for $30, against spending 2-3 hrs doing their least favorite chore, or some such. Except I suspect that would be impractical, since you might be up to your ears in work by the time they could cash in.
I really don't know how not to be sick with worry about T right now, and nothing that anyone is telling me or I'm telling myself is helping.
sj, why not just give yourself permission to be worried? While her prognosis appears good, M has had something happened to her which IS extremely worrisome. Come to think of it, being merely worried is irrational. Your BFF had a stroke. If you were both 70 it would be worrisome. At her age, it's f-ing terrifying. Yeah, you need to be able to keep the screaming in your head to a dull roar so that you can continue to function. Screw it, no you don't. I hereby give you permission to be freaked out, for as long as you need to be. You also have my permission to be thankful to the point of tears that she is going to be ok. You feel what you feel, and you take some time if you need to.