Mal: You know, you ain't quite right. River: It's the popular theory.

'Objects In Space'


Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Laga - May 26, 2009 9:55:54 pm PDT #11057 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.

there were stacks of men, but most seemed to be more interested in hook-ups than relationships, and seemed none too adroit at going about it.

No you're right, that's the case here too. But at least you can meet them. The women don't even reply to your emails.


Laga - May 26, 2009 9:57:06 pm PDT #11058 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.

Cab Calloway is the Hi De Ho Man

this is even awesomer


billytea - May 26, 2009 10:07:36 pm PDT #11059 of 30000
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.

No you're right, that's the case here too. But at least you can meet them. The women don't even reply to your emails.

I found it to be a numbers game. For every ten contacts I sent out, maybe three would reply, and of those, maybe one would lead to a date. It was patchy, though. I went through periods without much response, and then in one month I might suddenly hit a 60% success rate. There is the possibility that I am not, in fact, a billytea for all seasons.


Laga - May 26, 2009 10:16:45 pm PDT #11060 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.

I have gone on one date with a girl I met on line. Correction: I went on more than one date with that girl but she's the only girl I've dated who I met on line.


Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - May 26, 2009 10:23:07 pm PDT #11061 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"

Heh. And in 'linking the discussions' stuff - I'm marrying a Girl I met online. :)


erin_obscure - May 27, 2009 12:14:21 am PDT #11062 of 30000
Occasionally I’m callous and strange

had a lot of paper success with online dating. Met up with multiple real ppl through both onion.com and eharmony.com. Match.com scared me. I'd say there are plenty of actual women online, but i would be suspect of the ones with supermodel-looking photos ;P


erin_obscure - May 27, 2009 12:33:51 am PDT #11063 of 30000
Occasionally I’m callous and strange

And totally with ND on the legal vs spiritual aspect of "marriage". I really believe that any consenting adults should be able to enter into a legal union (i'm fine with multiple participants, inter-species, whatever, as long as every party is fully consenting). The legal document/certificate and all legal rights should be the same for all people entering into this union regardless of civil circumstances.

If people also want to be spiritually married before god(s) through some church or other, fine, but i don't think the state should be involved in those ceremonies at ALL, nor should they provide any legal rights.

I doubt that my belief will ever be put into practice, as it would essentially overturn centuries of precedent, but i really think it *should* be the case in a nation which espouses separation of church and state. This whole government stepping into marriage has created some nasty situations.


Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - May 27, 2009 1:09:24 am PDT #11064 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"

i would be suspect of the ones with supermodel-looking photos ;P

Four years on, The Girl is still grumpy about my online picture apparently not looking anything like me. It was just a good picture. I'm clearly more homely in the flesh.


Barb - May 27, 2009 2:35:28 am PDT #11065 of 30000
“Not dead yet!”

Heh. And in 'linking the discussions' stuff - I'm marrying a Girl I met online.

Heh. Clearly, I'm a Luddite. Lewis and I were introduced on a blind date that was so blind even we didn't know we were on it. (I went for the wings. Seriously.)

Going to be twenty years next Tuesday.


Calli - May 27, 2009 2:43:16 am PDT #11066 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

I'd love to think the lack of response to my online dating profiles was that I seemed so hot and perfect that the men all assumed I was a spambot. Not sure how to port that theory over to the lack of response to my in-person availability, but I have a long day at a conference booth to think about it.