Happy birthday Vortex!

Congrats Aims!

Rachel Alexandra has a great name. That's all I got.

I have no idea how people meet people to date. All the potential datables I've met were via work or gaming. And while you game, Sean, the odds of finding a girl via that are not so good (and as they say, the goods are odd.)

I was shocked the other day to realize the ratio of girls to boys in my gaming group is 1:1. I used to always be the only girl.

And while you game, Sean, the odds of finding a girl via that are not so good (and as they say, the goods are odd.)

Odd isn't necessarily a deal-breaker for me (depending on the specifics of "odd," of course).

And no, even though Laga is right that the ratio of boys to girls in gaming circles is equalizing a bit, I'm not going to meet anyone that way.

But I'm stressing hard about money, and feeling blue and lonely the last few days. I don't like being single. I don't know where to go to meet new people, and have no prospects among the people I do know, and at a stone's throw from 40, the odds are pretty heavily stacked against me.

I'll match you and raise you a decade and working at home. It's just gotten so easy to stay a complete hermit who hardly communicates with anyone but the dog.

Congratulations, Aims!

Happy birthday to the magnificent Vortex!

I thought there was a big gaming con next weekend but my google search failed.

{{Sean}} Honey, I was totally nodding my head in complete understanding of your posts. Up until about 2 years ago, I was happy being single. No problems whatsoever. Lately, however, things have been shifting. I'd love to have someone to share things with. I hate dating and finding single, straight men who are close to my age is proving excessively difficult.

I had this theory that's always worked in the past that when I stop looking for love it finds me. It's been over a year now and I think maybe it's time to reevaluate that theory. I don't mind dating, it's the reaching out and taking that first step that terrifies the hell out of me.

Congratulations, Aims!

I'm sorry, Sean and Omnis. Whenever I get glum about my lack of a love life, I remember that there are probably quite a few wonderful men out there, equally single, alone, and wishing they knew someone just like me. And it doesn't help a damn bit because that just means there's twice as many people lonely.

Yeah, not helpful. Sorry.

I have found being not in a relationship better than being in an unhappy relationship, for whatever that's worth.

One more story:

My friend R had been married to her high school sweetheart. 20 years later, He changed. It as not a pleasant divorcee. She spent a lot of time reconnecting with friends, and getting to know some of the people involved in her outside interests better. Not looking for love, just friends. Eventually, she told her friend D, Look I have a crush n you. This doesn't have to change anything, but I felt it was unfair to not let you know. ( R had been emotionally battered by her husband for at least 3 or 4 years). D is a cautious man, he didn't answer R for a few months. They are together and happy now

I know people that have gone out looking for love and found it. (eharmony couples mostly) Others, while not anti-love, just were looking for ways to grow and that's when they found love .

Intellectually, I know I am WAAAY better off than I was in my dysfunctional relationship.

My heart seems unconvinced right now.