Sara, we did something similar with CJ when he was in 1st grade. His teacher would send home a weekly summary, each day either had a smiley face, a straight face, or a frowny face. We had treats for 3 smiley's, 4 smiley's, and 5 smiley's. They were very minor treats, but it helped. Yes, good behavior should be its own reward, but really - in real life, when you behave well, there are more apt to be treats than not, right?
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Natter 56: ...we need the writers.
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SuziQ - Jan 24, 2008 3:42:00 pm PST #5256 of 10001
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msbelle - Jan 24, 2008 3:43:00 pm PST #5257 of 10001
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There has been discussion on my adoption board about people putting lima beans into jar for good behavior or events and when the jar is full they get a big treat.
I rarely take something away right at that moment, it is usually something in the future.
Sue - Jan 24, 2008 3:44:45 pm PST #5258 of 10001
hip deep in pie
I thought last week's Ugly Betty is the last new episode.
sarameg - Jan 24, 2008 3:45:14 pm PST #5259 of 10001
Some of the time, anyway. Heh.
I do know some kids who it would likely not work for.
Aims - Jan 24, 2008 3:58:09 pm PST #5260 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.
I rarely take something away right at that moment, it is usually something in the future.
I think Em's too young to see past right now. As she gets older, we'll probably work that in.
I really like the stoplight model, too. But again, once she's older.
sarameg - Jan 24, 2008 4:07:42 pm PST #5261 of 10001
Yeah, I think kids have to have some comprehension of future before it really works effectively. Without that, it is too abstract to have any meaning.
Hell, even with it, some of us still go fuckit.
Aims - Jan 24, 2008 4:08:32 pm PST #5262 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Hell, even with it, some of us still go fuckit.
I frequently get a case of the "fuckits".
shrift - Jan 24, 2008 4:16:19 pm PST #5263 of 10001
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
For when aurelia is around -- if it actually is in the 20s tomorrow and not a total snowpocalypse, what do you think about Singha for dinner? Or we could do Mexican again.
flea - Jan 24, 2008 4:19:44 pm PST #5264 of 10001
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Eve is still not very well able to deal with either punishments or future rewards, and she's nearly 4.5. We don't, frankly, have a very good technique for her, aside from giving lots of attention even when she is at her worst (especially when she is at her worst).
Both my kids went through a phase of hitting themselves when thwarted at about 18 months (Peter is still there, but then than a few weeks ago). Interesting that it's a persisting thing with Eth kids.
aurelia - Jan 24, 2008 4:21:58 pm PST #5265 of 10001
All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story. Tell me a story.
Either is good with me. Is Singha enough of a lunch standby for you that you'd rather go for Mexican?