I do kind of think that desire is selfish, and that love is selfless; and that one can love a person without desiring them, and desire a person without loving them, but that being in love is a combination of the two. (The gods are looking down upon me pontificating here, and they are reviewing my flimsy lovelife to date, and they are pissing themselves laughing at me. But it's what I think. Um. It may be nonsense. I'm probably a bit naive about this.)

No, I think that's lovely, though I can hardly argue that I'm the queen of lovelives either.

Women didn't officially have a sexuality so they could get away with more! (Or something.)

Actually, IIRC the idea of women not having (much of a) sexual appetite is of relatively recent origin--as in, didn't get going until sometime post-Renaissance, and didn't reach its full flowering until the Victorian era. Anyone who knows more about this, please feel free to clarify or shoot me down as needed, but from what I've read, the rationale behind keeping women oppressed changed over time. In the Middle Ages, it was "Women are corrupt and sexually insatiable, therefore guard them well so you can be sure your heirs are yours." By the 19th century, it had become, "Women are pure and good, the angels of the home, but are weaker physically and mentally, so we protect them for their own good." Of course, I'm both paraphrasing and generalizing quite broadly here.

Either way, women get the shaft. And not in the good way, either.

...I mean as far as I'm concerned people who treat Romeo and Juliet as a great big heterosexual love story are doing a greater violence to the text than any slasher ever could, so have at it.

Angus - can you exand on this please? I thought it was a hetrosexual love story - though not neccesarily one favorable to love. Part of the Elisibethan morality was that you married as a business deal, and took lovers on the side for sex (except for the lower who classes who married as a business deal that included sex; i.e. lower classes probably wouldn't have a great many chances for lovers on the side - so you were supposed to marry someone you were sexually compatible with.) Love, especially love that ignored the business side of marriage was a madness and a tragedy. Of course R&J has additional layers of irony - because if the M's and C's had not been so busy pursing their crazy feud, they would have seen a Romeo/Juliet marriage as a good business deal, and a chance to end the really insane war.

I thought the pseudo hip-hop/rock Romeo and Juliet that was tried a few years ago actually had a good concept. It was unfortunately executed like crap and with poor direction , and (IMO) a really bad choice of cast - but I think the idea was a good one - not just the rival families as American Gangs (after all that goes back to West Side Story) but the idea of this as a small madness within a large madness; I really think that was faithful to the orginal.

Yes, I pretty much thought it was a heterosexual love story too. t /naive

I also liked Lurman's R&J. And I thought the cast was good. Although I was sorry the Nurse's best lines got cut.

Oh, I just assumed he meant it was a fucked up and crazy "love" story! Not that the het-ness was in question. Angus?

I heart this thread..

Everything from Buffy to Shakespeare via Jondalar and chinois and aging necrophilic dwarves and inisipip posh twits and chocolate bikkies, then back again.

The Buffistas World's contracted thus.

t /board love. Must go monday.

There were aging necrophiliac dwarves? How did I miss this?

In my opinion, R&J is more about "Look what a pair of nitwits they are!" (a la Anthony and Cleopatra) than about Twoooo Wuuuuuv. Painfully young (even by Elizabethan terms) idiots are carried away by forces they ought to resist.

Your Shakespeare May Vary.

Having finished watching the Manor/Edwardian House, I have to say that future generations, when asking "What's a git, daddy?" will be directed to videos of "Sir" John Oliff-Cooper.

I'm just starting watching "Manor House", so one episode in I'm mostly reeling at the missing scullery maid. I can't wait until the next ep.