I don't know about you guys, but I've had it with super-strong little women who aren't me.

Buffy ,'Get It Done'


Natter 78: I might need to watch some Buffy for inspiration

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


erikaj - Jul 19, 2026 10:49:29 am PDT #13365 of 13382
"Somewhere in this building is our talent." Toby Ziegler, my spirit animal

Sounds like a good time, and congrats, if you want them.(One time I did that, and the person lost weight because she'd been through a medical wringer, so I tend not to congratulate that anymore, but since you brought it up first, I think it's okay.) Does it make me a bad disabled person if I'll be kind of glad that Disability Pride is over soon? It's actually been kind of an humiliating month for me personally--if the collective gets any prouder, maybe I get, like, locusts at my house? Oh, and if all it took was a bunch of people writing #NotGoingBack to stop us from going back, looks like we won already. Unfortunately, don't think that's how it works.


Steph L. - Jul 19, 2026 10:58:33 am PDT #13366 of 13382
That which does not kill you should RUN

(One time I did that, and the person lost weight because she'd been through a medical wringer, so I tend not to congratulate that anymore, but since you brought it up first, I think it's okay.)

Yeah, I've noticed a shift toward not making unsolicited comments on people's bodies, which I think is generally a good thing (like, if anyone told Tim he was looking slim and trim while he was going through radiation and chemo, I would have punched them on his behalf). I think as long as the person (for example, me) brings it up first, it's totally cool to comment. And (in my opinion), even if the other person brought it up first, it's also totally cool to still not comment on their size, but just say something broadly complimentary, like "You're looking good!"

Bodies are weird, and 50% of the time I feel like a 13-year-old going "DO NOT PERCEIVE ME!" and the other 50% of the time I feel like "Tell me my ass looks good or I will set the dogs on you."


DavidS - Jul 19, 2026 11:22:44 am PDT #13367 of 13382
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

And (in my opinion), even if the other person brought it up first, it's also totally cool to still not comment on their size, but just say something broadly complimentary, like "You're looking good!"

That is generally how people comment on my weight loss: "You look great!"

Also, Tep, I was just talking to someone about your retro pinup photoshoot that you did and how much joy that gave you. So I'm glad to hear you enjoying another studio photo session.


Laura - Jul 19, 2026 11:26:33 am PDT #13368 of 13382
Our wings are not tired.

You look great is generally safe. And that is awesome, Teppy!


Steph L. - Jul 19, 2026 11:44:47 am PDT #13369 of 13382
That which does not kill you should RUN

Also, Tep, I was just talking to someone about your retro pinup photoshoot that you did and how much joy that gave you. So I'm glad to hear you enjoying another studio photo session.

It was fun doing it with friends, because they're an automatic hype machine AND they encourage—and participate in—hilarious bullshit.


Laura - Jul 19, 2026 4:08:59 pm PDT #13370 of 13382
Our wings are not tired.

Well all the food at the World Cup viewing gathering was awesome, which is more than I can say for the game itself. The games prior to the final were much more exciting.


Atropa - Jul 19, 2026 5:07:42 pm PDT #13371 of 13382
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.

:: staggers into thread ::

We’re back from 18 days in the UK! I’m jet lagged, but managed to move Miss Erzabet No Biting from my lap long enough to unpack everything. There’s a lot of laundry in my future.

The trip was great, but sadly confirmed a suspicion that Mr. Loomycakes and I had: after a few days of eating food that wasn’t from the US, my inflammation and general pain levels dropped. And it wasn’t like I was eating healthier, because my meals included a lot of black pudding, eggs, and scones with clotted cream and jam.


Laura - Jul 20, 2026 5:54:55 am PDT #13372 of 13382
Our wings are not tired.

Rest up from the jet lag. Good to have confirmation of the possible sources of inflammation.

The orange blight once again trying to make it all about him at the World Cup. When will this end?


Trudy Booth - Jul 20, 2026 7:00:02 am PDT #13373 of 13382
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart

Bodies are weird, and 50% of the time I feel like a 13-year-old going "DO NOT PERCEIVE ME!" and the other 50% of the time I feel like "Tell me my ass looks good or I will set the dogs on you."

Brilliant as always.

I like to say "I want to be pretty and I don't want it to matter." This is substantially demure in comparison.


JenP - Jul 20, 2026 7:38:28 am PDT #13374 of 13382

Bodies are weird, and 50% of the time I feel like a 13-year-old going "DO NOT PERCEIVE ME!" and the other 50% of the time I feel like "Tell me my ass looks good or I will set the dogs on you."

Truth. And these days, I am in 13 y.o. mode.