Happy birthdays to all of the post-Christmas Buffista babies!
Giles: Helping out with the dishes makes me feel useful. Dawn: Wanna clean out the garage with us
Saturday? You could feel indispensable.
'Dirty Girls'
Natter 78: I might need to watch some Buffy for inspiration
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Jessica - Dec 28, 2025 7:04:51 am PST #10795 of 10871
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
meara - Dec 28, 2025 7:12:06 am PST #10796 of 10871
Ugh. My father seems to be rapidly declining and is not completely lucid, and unable to get up to use the bathroom now…but is lucid enough that when EMTs came he answered their questions and refused to go to the hospital. My poor sister is at her wits end (like yes, he’s been dying for years, but is this a stupid UTI and he’s just being stubborn and has decided it’s his time??)
-t - Dec 28, 2025 9:08:25 am PST #10797 of 10871
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Oh, man, meara, how very difficult!
quester - Dec 28, 2025 11:21:36 am PST #10798 of 10871
Danger is my middle name, only I spell it R. u. t. h. - Tina Belcher.
Thanks, Laura. It's very strange to be 70.
Laura - Dec 28, 2025 11:23:22 am PST #10799 of 10871
Our wings are not tired.
Ugh, meara. No fun. Frequent UTIs are a big issue with the elderly. It seems they never get rid of it completely. And it causes problems beyond the incontinence.
lisah - Dec 28, 2025 11:29:30 am PST #10800 of 10871
Punishingly Intricate
Happy birthday, quester!!!
-t - Dec 28, 2025 6:47:16 pm PST #10801 of 10871
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Happy birthday, quester! I can well imagine it does feel strange, but I am very glad to get the actual report!
Calli - Dec 28, 2025 6:51:50 pm PST #10802 of 10871
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
Happy birthday, quester!
I’m sorry, meara. It’s a hard thing to watch. I hope your sister can get your dad to get some sort of medical attention.
Things have been very family focused for me over the past several days. The WI branch of the family came to stay at my sister’s on Christmas, and on Saturday we went to the Henry Ford museum (with an unexpected social justice section). We had an ice storm Friday night, so I lost power in my apartment and ended up joining everyone at my sister’s for longer than expected, staying the night on my sister’s sofa with my cat locked in the laundry room so we could stay warm. I love them all, but at several points there were four children under 7 gathered together, and that meant a lot of noise chaos. Power has now been restored, and I’m enjoying a nice, quiet evening in my living room.
meara - Dec 28, 2025 7:41:55 pm PST #10803 of 10871
Four children under 7 would definitely have me longing for my peace and quiet!!
I made it home in one battered-feeling piece! I feel a bit bad because I’d told my housesitter I’d be home late tonight, and got back around 7, and she was still packing up and making dinner. But she and her gf finished packing up and took off and now Rory and I are on the couch.
Apparently my brother bought a last minute flight to Connecticut and is going to try to convince my dad to go to the hospital, but it’s looking like this may be it. I am a bad daughter but I really don’t want to fly out there to see him (especially if he’s not very with it). I did it for my mom, and was very glad I got to say goodbye. But not sure I need that with dad. But then I feel guilty.
Laura - Dec 29, 2025 7:36:58 am PST #10804 of 10871
Our wings are not tired.
Trust yourself on this meara. You don’t want your last memories to be fighting with him about getting care. Your brother can handle this. I’m sorry it is so hard.