My parents are in their early 79s and Mom is up here helping me to NC and I'll live with her and try to get my life on track. I would say back on track but I don't think it's ever been on track. ..or at least the track I wanted it to be on.

You don't sound whiny, Ginger. That's the reality.

I feel like I need to get my today in some semblance of order before I tackle tomorrow. But I probably shouldn't put it off too long, or it'll be the today I'm not ready for and I'll be kicking myself for all the stuff I could have done but didn't.

In potluck news: I have signed up to bring hot chocolate to the potluck in December, but don't know what to bring to the one next week. Next week is the bigger crowd. Hm.

Uggh, nap helped headache some, but not enough. More drugs...

My mom never wanted to go into any kind of assisted living or nursing home. When she was on home hospice care it became VERY apparent, within the first 24 hours, that I couldn't care for her by myself and we had to move her to a hospice center. It was set up like one of the nursing homes I know she would hate, but it was very clean, didn't smell of piss, had great people, and she got fantastic care right up to the end. I felt (still feel) horrible that I had to do that against her desires. She was on enough pain killers and was out of it that she didn't fight it, except for one night when she insisted I come pick her up. Her biggest complaint? "They are drugging me". Ummm, yes Mom, that is exactly what you asked for when you decided to go on hospice care - no pain which equals lots of drugs.

So they already got Hazel's bloodwork back, and she has a thyroid problem! (I can't remember if it's hypo or hyper.) Dammit, cat. So I need to give her meds and re-test in a few weeks. So there's several hundred dollars I wasn't planning on. Ah well.

There are 2 step to the garage and the laundry.

to be clear the offer is to buffistas, NOT buffista parents..@@

anditmightcomewithsomeexpectationofhelpgettingaspetsofmylifeinorderlikemakingcalls.

One of the points of co-housing is that it is good pre-retirement. But of course Buffista specific co-housing pre-retirement would be tough cause of work and family in different places.

There is a larger social point here. The whole focus on individual detached homes, with large individual yards is not really that paradisical in the long run. My personal opinion, without energy at the moment to provide support is that two factors have screwed up the USA almost as much as racism

1) The single family detached home with large lots 2) Automobile dependence

I think both tend to atomize us, to separate us from one another and not in a good "privacy for introverts" way.

these are all reasons I will be moving into sara's basement.

I like living in an apartment with friends above me, next to me, and across the parking lot from me. I wish it was a condo situation so I could replace the carpet with wood and the popcorn ceiling with tin, but the neighbors are great.

The whole focus on individual detached homes, with large individual yards is not really that paradisical in the long run

I agree, American society has evolved away from thinking of communal life as a good thing, though large cities may counter that. Heck, it may go back to England, where everyone apparently longs for a patch of green to call their own.