In potluck news: I have signed up to bring hot chocolate to the potluck in December, but don't know what to bring to the one next week. Next week is the bigger crowd. Hm.

Uggh, nap helped headache some, but not enough. More drugs...

My mom never wanted to go into any kind of assisted living or nursing home. When she was on home hospice care it became VERY apparent, within the first 24 hours, that I couldn't care for her by myself and we had to move her to a hospice center. It was set up like one of the nursing homes I know she would hate, but it was very clean, didn't smell of piss, had great people, and she got fantastic care right up to the end. I felt (still feel) horrible that I had to do that against her desires. She was on enough pain killers and was out of it that she didn't fight it, except for one night when she insisted I come pick her up. Her biggest complaint? "They are drugging me". Ummm, yes Mom, that is exactly what you asked for when you decided to go on hospice care - no pain which equals lots of drugs.

So they already got Hazel's bloodwork back, and she has a thyroid problem! (I can't remember if it's hypo or hyper.) Dammit, cat. So I need to give her meds and re-test in a few weeks. So there's several hundred dollars I wasn't planning on. Ah well.

There are 2 step to the garage and the laundry.

to be clear the offer is to buffistas, NOT buffista parents..@@

anditmightcomewithsomeexpectationofhelpgettingaspetsofmylifeinorderlikemakingcalls.

One of the points of co-housing is that it is good pre-retirement. But of course Buffista specific co-housing pre-retirement would be tough cause of work and family in different places.

There is a larger social point here. The whole focus on individual detached homes, with large individual yards is not really that paradisical in the long run. My personal opinion, without energy at the moment to provide support is that two factors have screwed up the USA almost as much as racism

1) The single family detached home with large lots 2) Automobile dependence

I think both tend to atomize us, to separate us from one another and not in a good "privacy for introverts" way.

these are all reasons I will be moving into sara's basement.

I like living in an apartment with friends above me, next to me, and across the parking lot from me. I wish it was a condo situation so I could replace the carpet with wood and the popcorn ceiling with tin, but the neighbors are great.

The whole focus on individual detached homes, with large individual yards is not really that paradisical in the long run

I agree, American society has evolved away from thinking of communal life as a good thing, though large cities may counter that. Heck, it may go back to England, where everyone apparently longs for a patch of green to call their own.

I am so over my kids today. They are old enough that they should be able to be a help instead of a burden, but they cannot seem to get their shit together to actually be helpful. Probably this is my fault, because it's my job as the parent to teach them how to get their shit together. But seriously? A 9 year old should be able to make himself a damned bowl of cereal. Today was a clusterfuck of taking forever to do simple tasks (at 9:54 mr. flea said, let's get ready to go; we left the house at 11:17) and then whining about homework for 3 hours. I have never been so glad to "have to" leave for work (I went in 5-9 tonight.)

They are old enough that they should be able to be a help instead of a burden, but they cannot seem to get their shit together to actually be helpful.

oh look, topic covered in counseling today (oh hey, yeah I scheduled counseling to start back up and today was first day). Mac resents chores because he has chores that are beyond just his use of the house...yeah kinda was pushed by counselor into realizing that maybe most f what mom does falls into that category.