When I called back after the meeting she said she was too pissed about me missing the call to talk to me. Why do I keep making mistakes?
Gud, I don't want to disparage your wife here, but -- you were in a meeting. Unless there's a serious medical or other emergency, it seems unreasonable to expect a spouse to take a call in a meeting. Your job is important, not just to you, but to your whole family (your wife included, obviously), and there are times when you need to focus on it.
It's an unreasonable standard to classify "not answering a non-emergency phone call in a work meeting" as a mistake.
Are *you* allowed to be pissed at *her*? Because I'd be pissed at her for setting unreasonable standards that could put your employment at risk. Unless she doesn't need your income, she shouldn't be doing that.
[Note: the previous message does not stand if there was a genuine medical/life-threatening emergency. I'm not a total monster.]
I'm sorry, Gud. I hope you (and the people around you) can make peace with your non-infallibility.
I'd also say that for me, worrying about making a mistake often leads to making a mistake. It's an ugly self-fulfilling cycle.
To put it bluntly Gud, the only mistake I think you're making is putting up with all this shit from your wife. She needs to pack up all her unreasonable disapproval of and anger at you and seek professional psychiatric help.
What Matt said. What she is doing is causing you harm, and cannot be good for her, either.
Matt's right. This sounds like abusive behavior on her part, not a mistake on your part.
Did she leave a message that said more than "Call me"? Did she leave a message at all? If there was no message or text, then the threat level goes way down.
I'm not married, but that sounds really unrealistic. I AM a manager, and expect my staff not to take personal calls in meetings unless their baby is in surgery or similar.
No, no message.
I called back again and things were much better. I think she was just really upset at our daughter and I my not answering the phone just made things blow up. So maybe just my overreaction.
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