I'm sorry, but anyone who wants to talk at length to the immediate bereaved at a wake/funeral/etc. is not meeting their social obligations.
Jeez, last night, every time we tried to talk to Tim's aunt or any of his cousins, someone stepped in front of us and then had lengthy conversations. And Tim refused to step closer so that we could indicate we were next (there wasn't a receiving line or anything; it was just a freeform visitation), so as soon as one person would walk away, another one would swoop in. I finally stalked off to the bathroom because I didn't want to snap at Tim for being so reticent.
At my dad's funeral Xanax was the only thing that got me through. Everyone was perfectly nice and polite. There was just a lot of people, many of them huggy.
I felt so bad when I started crying when I was talking with Patty's daughter after the service. I knew I was putting HER in the position to console ME, which is completely backwards. I tried so hard to stop and all that and she reminded me that I'm basically family. So gracious but I hate that I put that burden on her for even a moment.
And you're having to deal with all the hassle when you're emotionally wrung out.
All my sympathy to Drew and Steph and anyone else who needs it.
On the lighter side, you know how people threaten to move to Canada if they don't like the results of an election? Well, Canada (one part of it, actually) is preemptively offering a refuge.
when he dies my brother and I will have to do the whole greet-all-the-well-meaning-people, which neither of us is remotely emotionally equipped to handle
You really don't. As the chief mourners, other people gotta take care of you. That's how it is supposed to work. And at the funerals I've been to (both for people close to me and not so much) it pretty much has.
And Suzi, sometimes having someone else fall apart is exactly what a grieving person needs. Take her at her word that you were not a burden.
I really like the extra length, Liese. I kinda want to bring that picture into my stylist and ask her about making my asymmetry more extreme.
I am intrigued by the tiny pie plate lightboxes.
How I know I'm overtired and should stop working: I looked at the candle and thought "Hey, I should blow that out now," and reached for the TV remote.
SPOILER: the remote did not make the candle go out.
Not universal enough, eh?
On the lighter side, you know how people threaten to move to Canada if they don't like the results of an election? Well, Canada (one part of it, actually) is preemptively offering a refuge.
It's always been an option for those of us that lean Left, but I really have to raise an eyebrow at conservatives who moan about leaving the country if the opposition gets elected. Exactly what country do they intend to move to that's less inclined to Socialism, gun ownership restrictions, and keeping religion out of government? I hardly think people raving about imaginary Kenyans are going to be happy moving to Uganda.
