Casper reports from 7th grade that everyone was so sad about Snape today.

Apologies for not coming in sooner to spill. I've been laid up with a nasty cold the last few days, and so I slept in quite a bit today, and then had to run around taking care of some errands. And now I think it's back to bed.

But first...

Yeah, so I got married back on January 1st, out in Denver. Colorado allows you to self-officiate, so we did. Because of the divorce from the father of her child, she is stuck in Denver for the time being. But it looks like I'll be moving to Denver later this year.

We're hopeful that, as her daughter gets older, and gets more of a say in who she stays with, we can move back to LA (I do miss my city).

could make more huge mistakes.

Oh, god, yes, the sudden questioning. "If I could screw this up, am I really doing all this other stuff right? Did I mess it up while I was so proud of myself for getting it done?" This leads me to much staring at text, wondering if what I'm seeing is really correct or if I'm just hallucinating that the words/figures are right.

And the horror of the spousal upset. I know that, too. Hubby was not an easy man in some situations. He always seemed so shocked when I made a mistake, like his own worldview depended on me being infallible. Bizarrely appealing, but no way for two grown-ups to function.

Timelies all!

Congrats, Sean!

Congrats, Sean!

Gud, see what Steph said. Relatedly, I think it's kind of horrifying that they would turn the water off for a bill that's (at most) one month late. Water is kind of important!

Congrats, Sean! You two look so darn happy.

my wife will be angry for I don't know how long

Really, it sounds like your wife's making way too much of a relatively minor mistake. But I feel for you, Gud. My ex would torture me verbally for days over every mistake, use every lapse as proof that I was incompetent and possibly even insane. It took me years after I left him to trust myself to be a competent adult. Discovering autopay helped too. Still does. Because I'm a competent adult who can't remember shit. I'm sorry you have to put up with this.

Congrats Sean!

I managed to screw up my auto pay water bill, because I didn't remember to switch it from the old out of date credit card to the new one. They didn't turn off the water though--all it cost me was a small fine and a lot of embarrassment.

Congrats, Sean!

I'm sorry this is hitting you so hard, Gud. You made a mistake but you also already fixed it. Try to give yourself a break, you have a lot on your plate.

it's kind of horrifying that they would turn the water off for a bill that's (at most) one month late.

I was somehow under the impression that they couldn't do that? Maybe it depends on where you are.

Sean, how wonderful! Glad to see you so happy.

Gud, I have almost had the power and water turned off more times than I can count. I never used autopsy, partly out of a foolish belief that it wasn't really the "right" way to do it and more recently because I was never sure I'd have the money when it withdrew. I hope both you and your wife can shake your heads, tweak your system, and let it go.

eta auto pay, not autopsy. DYAC

Congratulations, Sean! May you and your DW have many happy years together.

Gud, I'm sorry about the water bill stuff. It happens to many of us. I once got a "last notice before cut off" for a utility bill that had slipped under some other papers and likewise slipped my mind. That made me revamp my whole bill handling process.