Double down, Michelle, double down!

Msbelle, you and that job are no fit. You have enough other places to get stress. I hope you can simplify this.

I learnt how to capture HTTP headers of an authentication request this morning. Its stuns me how badly some people can ask questions.

We had our company wide go git 'em meeting today, and it added to a bit of the presentation I gave yesterday, and I decided to talk to my boss about encouraging an atmosphere (or plain just FORCING people--I'm easy) in which people can raise risks as early as possible, instead of diving down dead ends and spinning their wheels. I raised an example where I had had to guess questions to ask the developers about what might be wrong, so I could chaperone them talking to the person who can address the issue. The person upstairs. The person they've been email with daily. And the person to whom they didn't want to say "Actually, I don't get that. Can you explain?"

And then developer #1 handed off to #2, and #2 did exactly the same thing. It's flawed to expect the analysts and project managers to speak for developers. They need to be able to say things out loud in order to brainstorm and problem solve outside the arena in which they are not getting results.

So I named names and explained that to my boss, and that our current solution (not managing the developers at all) wasn't working. I now need to write it up with timelines, and I'm sure incompetent developer will never trust me again, but when she tells me at the penultimate step to deployment that she doesn't understand the assignment? SPEAK SOONER. You are the experts, and when it first doesn't make sense to you is when everyone else needs to be aware. Not two weeks later when you've run out of excuses for missing your deadline again and again.

Documentation. Go new company values!

Julie,

I gotta tell you that the "marijuana lights" phrase made me stop and reread your post 3 times. I have so many questions about that...but not helpful.

Here's what I do when I'm dealing with crazy cakes:

a) appear conciliatory and apologize for misunderstanding

b) repeat and write down instructions

c) repeat, "Oh, it was my mistake I thought I had authority to solve this problem and I didn't want to trouble you unnecessarily if I found an acceptable solution."

d) can you explain why you would prefer that solution to this one? Perhaps I am not seeing the big picture: how does that solve this problem?

e) I am concerned about time because we need to plant these seeds soon. Do you think your proposal will help me get started on this soon?

I'm kind of interested in seeing if her response ends up being a grudging, insincere "my words were taken out of context" type apology or if she's going to double down and go on tour with the Westboro Baptist Church.

The first one.

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Although to be fair, it looks like she's not blaming anyone for misunderstanding, but herself for not making it clear what she was saying.

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Marijuana lights: Boss kept going on about how ace these lights were, that they were commercial high grade lights, perfect for growing seeds. Then after we explained the blinding problem, she then went on the say "yeah, they're what you use when growing marijuana in your closet".

Thanks so much le nub, I'll have to reread your post more than three times and let it permeate in case the situation rears itself again tomorrow.

It drives me nuts. She's spread so thin that she doesn't have time to micromanage me, so thus I am left to do the best that I can with broad strokes, and seeing that I was the interim Dir. of Horticulture for the past four years off and on, I think I have a pretty good handle on shit that needs doing, and we just *have* to operate like that, with her handling the admin side of things while I'm in the trenches. And then she snaps back every now and then and gives the firm impression that I need to ask her when it is most efficient take a piss, if I could only figure out the formula of water intake, and sweat output depending on projected intensity of labour and average daily temperature.

Does she want a dancing monkey or someone who can take initiative while she's tied up in phone conferences. I feel very neglected . . . until I'm not.

Julie,

I have a lot of experience dealing with difficult adults in professional settings. If she is completely irrational though, you might have to wait until she gets busy again and neglects you to work all of this out.

I knew I should not have asked you for an explanation for marijuana lights. I had this image of marijuana being grown in the basement of a school and that's how the school was being funded. Further, I expected you to be interviewed on "This American Life" about your drug enterprise.

Now, I'm disappointed and dejected.

But she's made anti gay remarks before. I know I read something about it but I don't know how to find it through all the links that are about the current remarks.

Here's the thing: If most of the people left her concert had a particular impression of her remarks, including the person tweeting for her on stage, I think she is at best dissembling about her intent. Second, she reportedly said she was "nervous" about her remarks and would see who her true friends were.

I think she's got some stuff to work through and it would be best for her to do it out of the public eye.

But she's made anti gay remarks before

Yeah, I saw some of those reports, too. I think she's really struggling, and I suspect the line between what she thinks and what her church thinks isn't as clear as she'd like us to believe.

Len, we should totes have a drug enterprise in the basement of an historic estate!!!!

We are, after all, a poor non-profit with a slashed budget that was already anorexic to begin with. Do rich housewives of New Jersey partake? We might have the market!