I know a smart early 20s woman (I am being all "make her unidentifiable on the internet" but if you know me, you likely know who she is) who does actually feel that pornography is cheating and thus adultery in marriage. I don't agree with her theologically, but I can see how she rationally and calmly came to her decision. And since she's upfront about it with men she dates, fair enough.

What are her views on masturbation?

I wish the industry wasn't rife with abuses. It is. And it's a dangerous business or young people to get into. I would like to think that every porn worker is properly paid, not demeaned, abused or hooked on drugs. I'm not saying every single person in the industry is a victim, but there are only a few people making huge amounts of money off it and most of them are NOT women.

What are her views on masturbation?

From what I gathered, that it was not a horrible thing as a solitary activity. I will admit I was so thrown by "porn is cheating" that I might have just blinked for a while. Because while I think some people have relationships (for lack of a better word) with porn that aren't healthy for real-world partnerships, I don't see it is cheating.

And since she's upfront about it with men she dates, fair enough.

On the one hand, I figure if you're upfront about it, great. There's someone for everyone. But I would worry for her.

phew!! Phone interview went fairly well, I think. I hope. Would still need actual interview to decide if I would want this job, see the coworkers, find out more about the company, etc. I think mostly the issue would be they advertised for two different titles--and i want the higher one and I think they'd offer the lower one! (Other good thing--she didn't ask about salary)

I enjoy my porn more in written form (be that fanfic or erotica or trashy romances), but there are a couple of queer/female companies I respect (and that a few friends have even worked for). But I think doing it part-time or on a lark is hard for your future career, and doing it full-time seems like a difficult road as well.

Tonight is not going to be a good night. Mister Kitty is working on dying sooner rather than later again, and it might be time to help him along with that. He's all bones. But he's fooled me before, so who the hell knows. Vet tomorrow, worst-case-scenario mindset tonight.

sara, I am so sorry. Much love to you and Mister Kitty both.

Gentle hugs to Mister Kitty and to you. Koogie was barely more than an ambulatory skeleton wrapped in thin skin and fur at the end. But he was ambulatory. We decided he was a lich and had actually died four years before and just hadn't bothered with the rest of the steps. Other days he was the Velveteen Cat and was in the process of becoming even more real.

oh sweet MK.

my brother had to put his dog to sleep this weekend. rough times.

Oh, I'm sorry about the old gentleman, sara.

Man, I kicked a hornet's nest at the office. I have to work on getting this shit calmed down, stat.

I pretty much agree with Cashmere. I think theoretically there are people who are not abused/drug addicted/are healthy, but the industry is really problematic.

If an industry if that bad off, how can I enjoy the industry's products? And this is a question I ask myself about a lot of goods and services.

Calming vibes to Allyson and meara.

~ma to sarameg and Mr. Kitty.