Ugh, that must be so hard, Consuela. Is there anything to be done with meds about her anxiety and paranoia?

Sarameg is a BAD influence!

I already emailed my realtor, asking him to call me. I did discover that the house is on a domestic well, and not the city water supply, so I have to look into that more, especially in terms of resale value.

I'm trying to remember what I know about wells, Perkins. Someone I know had one. Let me think.

Scotch seems warranted, Consuela. I'm sorry it's so tough to deal with your mom. For what it's worth, it must feel pretty crappy to her, too, to be that anxious and upset all the time.

Is there anything to be done with meds about her anxiety and paranoia?

Oh, she is so medicated already. In fact, that's one of her paranoias, that someone will interfere with her access to her meds! Which of course makes her more anxious and then she wants more medication...

I just heard from someone over the weekend that when their power was out for several days recently, so was the water, due to having a well.

Oh, she is so medicated already. In fact, that's one of her paranoias, that someone will interfere with her access to her meds! Which of course makes her more anxious and then she wants more medication...

Yeah, there's a lot of that. I just have heard stories about people finally getting the right combo and it being magic (and other stories about that never happening, so...).

For what it's worth, it must feel pretty crappy to her, too, to be that anxious and upset all the time.

Oh, my, yes. I do feel bad for her: she's clearly pretty miserable, but there's nothing I can do. The things that would make her feel better (like exercise and therapy) she wouldn't do when she was able to, and now it's too late. She's spent her life saying, "No," to things, and now it's caught up with her.

I sound unsympathetic: I kind of have to be, in order to deal with her at all. She's my mother and I do love her, but I've had to disengage from her emotionally.

I sound unsympathetic: I kind of have to be, in order to deal with her at all. She's my mother and I do love her, but I've had to disengage from her emotionally.

Oh, I get that! My grandmother was the same way, and my mom went through the same thing. It just seems like you should be able to logic someone into feeling better, when there are ways to do it, and it's really not possible, sadly.

My FiL is very similar. All the things he could be spending his time doing he just won't do, and they'd all give him some measure of contentment or a little enjoyment.

You don't sound unsympathetic Consuela, you sound like someone who is trying to deal with a very difficult situation as best they can.

It just seems like you should be able to logic someone into feeling better, when there are ways to do it, and it's really not possible, sadly.

And certainly not when they can't remember the beginning the sentence by the time you finish it! (I exagerrate, but only a little.) Unfortunately if she gets upset or angry, that helps her remember better--so she can't remember where her grand-daughter goes to college, but by god she remembers being angry at my dad for something nobody else would dream of taking offense at.